Brother and SIL ... choices

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I have one brother, no other siblings/half/step siblings. My brother’s wife has two sisters.

Brother and SIL have four children. They’ve asked SILs two sisters to be god parents plus a group of friends so each of their children has one god mother and one god father - 8 in total.

I haven’t been asked to be a god parent.

AIBU to be upset by this? I know god parents don’t mean as much these days but it’s a nice thing to do and a sort of honorary role.

When they got married SIL had six bridesmaids including her two sisters but I wasn’t asked then either.

I’m really upset.

I can see why you're hurt, but it doesn't have to affect your relationship with your nieces and nephews. I am not the godparent to any of my five nieces or nephews but I have a lovely relationship with all of them.

To me it's more important that we and their parents can make time for the auntie-niece/auntie-nephew relationship to flourish. I try and take them out every month or so (to give their parents a break as much as anything else!) and I make huge efforts for birthdays and special occasions.

If your sister in law is getting in the way of you spending time with them then that's a real shame and you and the kids are missing out. If not, I wouldn't worry about who is the godparent. Like you say, it's an honorary title - it doesn't actually mean anything in a secular sense. Children don't care who their godparents are, they care about who loves them and who is fun to be around!