To feel a bit weird?

[purpleknittedjumper]

Not really sure what I'm expecting to gain from this post - maybe a bit of a vent or similar experiences?

Had to drop something at my ex h's house last night and have a quick word with him, a half unexpected visit on his part. When I got there it was just him and his girlfriend (he lives at home with his Mum - afaik they don't live together)

They have been together a little over a year now - we split up 2.5 years ago due to various reasons. Even tho I know about her, and it's totally his life he can do whatever he wants/see whoever he wants, part of me still felt a little bit weird. Him referring to her as 'his other half' etc.

I want to clarify I am absolutely not in love with him and do not want him back at all (he treated me terribly) but AIBU to still feel a little weird that he is in a relationship with someone else and living happily ever after whilst he's still technically married to me? (Divorce is pending) I can't describe it - it's not jealousy, as I said he treated me awfully but it feels weird to know all of the things he was saying to me/doing with me a couple of years ago he is probably doing with her now.

What is this feeling?! Am I normal?! Help!

I think it's normal. At least, I felt exactly the same as this when I split from my first husband. So if you're weird, then I'm exactly as weird as you!

@WhatsGoingOnEh it goes away right? The split was instigated by me - and caused hundreds of messages and emails containing 'I'm sorry. I love you. You're my soulmate I can't lose you. I've changed. I'll do anything to get you back'

I knew it would end eventually and he'd move on, but it is still weird!!! And him referring to her as his "other half" is really odd cause it's not that long ago he was saying it's me etc. And "other half" is a lot stronger than 'girlfriend' IMO

It definitely goes away. 👍🏻

I wouldn't say "other half" is particularly indicative of everlasting commitment. Maybe that's just his favourite phrase? Maybe he said "partner" once and his GF hated it? Maybe "girlfriend" sounds too young/childish, and he didn't know another way to put it?

Pour your energy into making your own life incredibly awesome! and it all fades away.

And, if he's gone from begging for you to come back, right on to calling her his other half, he's probably just someone who loves being in a relationship.

Was that why you finished it? That he didn't really appreciate/understand you? You were just the [insert female here] in his life?

Maybe?

r u still single op?

@WhatsGoingOnEh to be fair she is very childish from what I can gather. She's younger than us (early 20's) and I think she likes the idea of having a boyfriend who is older, had a child and just kind of ' grown up' even tho mentally and emotionally he is basically the same age as her she caused a lot of problems when they first got together - being very strange, sending me weird messages the lot.

@choccywokkydoodah Yes I am still single, I thought that might be why I feel odd, like he's managed to move on and I haven't, but I've got DS with me 24/7 and it's not easy to meet anyone as he's still only a small toddler.