To tell arguing neighbours to SHUT UP??!

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I live on a pretty typical street in a pretty typical / average, suburban, family area.

Several times in the last month I have been woken in the night (we’re talking 1am, 2am) by people talking loudly / arguing on the street outside, seemingly walking up and down the street as they do so.

This appears to be a young adult female, who may from what I have heard have mental health issues of some sort, and an adult female, who is generally quieter and appears to be trying to calm the situation down.

Sometimes (like last night) this goes on for two hours or more.

It’s disrupting my sleep (and no doubt that of other neighbours) and is distressing to hear.

I’ve no idea whether they are new to the neighbourhood as it’s only started up over the last week or so.

Last night I was getting so angry about it that I considered calling the police (not 999) but then I wondered whether I (or DH!!) should be going outside to confront them directly.

Any thoughts?

You've 'heard' they have 'mental health issues of some sort'?

Irrespective of that, which may or may not be true, or relevant, I understand the annoyance you face, but confronting it may not be safe or helpful. Do you know the person who's doing the calling down? Could you mention it gently?

@missusgenehunt sorry to clarify - it is from what I have overheard (in terms of the content /of the argument and how she is conducting herself) that I think there may be mental health issues involved.

I don’t know the people at all and couldn’t even point them out as these arguments are happening on the street at night.

Some kind of storming out followed by who I presume is mother (but may not be) trying to calm down and get her back inside.

Isnt it disturbing the peace,,? I would ask for advice from the police

It might be worth speaking to the woman trying to calm the situation, it sounds like both of them need more support than they’re getting!

As in outside agency support, I didn’t mean you should be supporting OP. It sounds very much like the younger woman is really struggling with MH issues and the older woman is trying her best but isn’t coping from what you’ve written.

I'd call police for advice. My next door neighbour once shouted shut up out his window at people on the street arguing and they smashed his windows in!

Thanks for replies.

I range between wanting to be supportive to someone / two people who are struggling contrasted with the blind range of someone who is sleep deprived (I’m also recovering from surgery) and woken in the middle of the night.

I think if it happens again I will contact police but I’d have to narrow down what house it is first.

You will get further with understanding than agression ime. We used to have teens shouting in our echoey street on summer evenings. Neighbours who shouted got shouted back at. A woman who went and explained that her child couldn’t sleep was apologised to.

Clearly linked to MH issues, not just arguing for no reason
It’s irrelevant why they’re arguing. It’s still unacceptable and disturbing the peace. And many people will give you a slap for sticking your nose into their business, it’s best to keep your distance and let the police deal with it.

All arguing is for a reason, surely? No one goes about shouting at another person for no reason at all...

But I'd probably stick my head out of the window and ask if everything is okay next time it happens. Not confrontational but making them aware they have woken you and being noticed.
If it is MH issues then it sounds like they need more support and calling the police (none emergency line obviously) might help.

BigBlueBubble your ignorance is really depressing. What a luxury to be able to be that way.

More perjorative terms, fucks sake people!

Nobody’s saying OP needs to put up with it, just that a different approach is needed if one has MH problems!

Why is it so fucking hard for people not to use insults and nasty words about people who are ILL???

Ill or not these people are disturbing the OP.

If someone on crutches was keeping you awake at 2 in the morning by constantly clattering backwards and forwards outside your window I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t be going “Oh well I can’t say anything. He’s got a bad leg” 🙄

HermaphroditePug who has said don’t say anything?

I haven’t, and nobody else has that I can see.

So what are you complaining about?

Unless the people in question are reading this (maybe if they are they’ll think about being more considerate) I haven’t offended them.

If they're outside on the street, why would you have to narrow down which house it is?

Don’t tell me - you’re being offended on behalf of mentally ill people.

Do you know where they live and can you put a note through their letterbox?

I can’t understand why you haven’t just shouted “shut up!” out of the window!

Hope you get done rest for your recovery op. Sleep deprivation sucks.