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Dorkdiary · 17/09/2018 19:48

For reasons I won't go into we had to leave our dog behind when I left exh with the children. We had no where to go so no option.
A few years later exh got word that we had got our own house to live in now and then turned up one day with the dog and dumped him on us. The landlord went berserk so my Mum and Dad offered to take him but they didn't feel like they had a choice.
He's actually been brilliant for them. My Dad particularly. He's their baby.

Because of his medical conditions and his age now insurance isn't really an option. My Mum already pays out £60 a month for diabetic treatment. Almost every time I go my Mum mentions the cost and I do offer to contribute but she refuses as she knows we are struggling.

Dog has hurt himself resulting in surgery which has cost hundreds and I feel fucking awful. They are both pensioners, they have or had savings but he was our dog and he was basically forced on them and I can't afford to pay for it or even contribute.

Aibu to feel like utter shit? I'm really struggling at the moment with anxiety and I just feel so utterly worthless .

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Neverender · 17/09/2018 19:59

Are there any animal charities who could help? I genuinely have no idea. Or crowdfunding his treatment?

PermanentlyFrizzyHairBall · 17/09/2018 20:00
Flowers

By now he probably he feels as much like their dog as yours. It sounds like despite the expense he's added a lot to your parents lives - so many health benefits to having an active pet. You feel guilty because you're a kind person but I don't think you should - I bet your parents are glad they took the dog on so you have as much reason to feel proud you did something nice for your parents as you are to feel guilty because of the expense.

Leeds2 · 17/09/2018 20:04

If you are offering to contribute, and your mum refuses, could you just leave a fiver under a plant pot each time you go, or whenever you can afford it, as a contribution? Your mum will probably not refuse that.
Or take round as much dog food as you can afford when you visit? It all helps.

Samantha2018 · 17/09/2018 20:18

The RCSPA vet centres will treat animals dependent on certain benefits? They ask for a donation. Have a look online see if you or your parents qualify for free treatment

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