Is this tight or too cruel? Or is it just me? WWYD now?

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Unbelievable thing happened yesterday.
I divorced an abusive wanker nearly three years ago. DC 8 and 12. I had to leave the home, he got it cheap from me to just to be safe.
He wouldn't pay to support them, so I reported him to CMS. He was furious, and still is.
I pay for EVERYTHING his £5 per day doesn't cover.
This weekend (they go EOW) it was a club for the youngest. I pay in advance for the term, and we each take them on our week. By mistake (paying online) I only paid for the first week, not the term. He took the DC, got there, it wasn't paid for and so instead of paying £14 and asking me for it back / taking it off the maintenance, he PUT DC BACK IN THE CAR AND BROUGHT THEM HOME!! After they'd seen all their friends there - they were already inside the place, FFS.

Is it me? I couldn't do this with my DC's friends, even - I'd just lend the money. Or even pay!

They're his DC, we were together 16 years. Any advice what I should do now?? I can't believe the meanness!

He should of payed!

Well just pay it I guess? What else can you do? It's done

Of course I'll pay it - I always pay it, it's just the harshness he shows the children that I can't believe!

He should have paid, the nasty tight twat.

What an absolute a. I feel sorry for your DC.

And for the small price of £14 your dc have learned what an arse he is. Small victories OP.

Thank you SistersOfPercy and everyone.
My radar is a bit off, thank you for the calibration. It's just mean!

He should have paid it. But now his kids know what kind of person he is, they won’t forget that!

I bet if he spoke to the manager and said that you were paying it online they’d have let the Dc in and just contacted you. Is not as if you aren’t unknown to them, you’ve been sending your DC there every week and paying it!

What an arse. Yanbu.

Yanbu. He should have paid.

You must feel so glad you are divorced!

He's an arse, but I think you knew that already.

I wouldn't say anything about it to him, he won't change, the kids are probably already realising what he's like.

That's the home goal to beat all home goals. It's going to bite him on the arse big time.

What a stingy git!

£5 per day for both children? Is that his child maintenance? Does he think that goes even close to covering their costs?

The more a read on this site about he behaviour and attitude of some dads the angrier I get. How has society raised so many selfish feckless irresponsible men? I am not by any means a man hated but dear god!

They won't forget, you reap what you have sown with your kids. They grow up and get their measure of you.

As horrible as it sounds it just an opportunity for your children to see their father’s true colours. It is horrible. Don’t doubt yourself, there was a reason you left him and now your children have seen beyond disney dad.

He is an arse.
Your DC will now be noticing this.

At least you know divorcing him was the right move! What a tight arse!

It's mean, it's horrible. You won't get disagreement on here about that.

I will tell you something though, I have never forgotten seeing the letter about how much maintenance my Dad had to pay my DM, through the courts in those days.

They are quite old now, DM being 78, sperm donor being 74.

Guess which one I have regular contact with and which one I gave up on years ago, after trying for too long!

"Any advice what I should do now??"

I don't think you can do anything except explain to him that that kind of thing hurts children and doubtless they will feel upset.

Your kids will one day appreciate all you do and will see their dad for the brainless cheapskate he is.

I get the same. "Tell your mum she needs to send £5 because I give her money for you". I think its the only point he has left to score, not even realising that he's shooting himself in the foot by making himself look a prat.
Just tell your kids I'm really sorry that happened, you must have felt awful. Don't criticise him though - they can do that themselves, and it really hurts children to hear one parent say something bad about the other even when they know it's true.

And for the small price of £14 your dc have learned what an arse he is

I know there’s a lot of negativity on mn but goodness me that’s the most brilliant bit of positive thinking I’ve seen in ages. Love it!

YANBU. He’s a twat. You knew that but he’s confirmed it again.

Kids quickly pick up on this sort of thing. It'll be stored away alongside all the other times they notice he doesn't pay for things, says that you should pay, lets them down because he's too tight. They'll know that you are their rock, their support, and the one who'll always be there for them. That's priceless.

They will remember it, I remember my father’s tight fisted behavious after my parents’ divorce. I never forgave him for it, and had little to do with him once I reached adulthood.