PILs have decided to give SIL house in will because she doesn't have one in her name but lives rent free. AIBU for being annoyed?

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My dh has one sister, and his parents have 2 houses paid off.

They have told him that they have decided to update their will and give his sister one of the houses and that he would have to split the other house with her as well. They said they decided this because dh has a house in his name (with a mortgage) whereas SIL lives in a house that her PILs have bought for SIL and her husband but kept in their name. This means SIL has no mortgage to pay but they feel bad for her because supposedly if her husband divorces her she will have nothing to her name. DH agrees with PILs but I think this is unfair because they have 2 houses and could divide it equally, while still giving SIL a house.

AIBU for thinking they are showing SIL favouritism and being annoyed that DH can't see it?

They are your PILs - what they do with their money is nothing to do with you. It is what they want, SIL is happy with the arrangement and your DH is happy with it. Can't see where you think this is any of your business.

None of your business, keep well away.

yy beak out. Sorry.

I haven't said anything because I know it would go nowhere but I just think it's a bit odd, and that parents should treat children fairly.

Do they not realise that in the event of divorce SIL could well end up with only half the value of her inheritance as her dh could perfectly well go after the money, which would be considered part of marital assets.

If your husband is happy then there's not much you can do but support him. Yes 50/50 would be a fair split but unless there's a bigger picture with sister as golden child and dh scapegoat and in FOG, then he's made an informed choice.

What is the FOG? But yes I would say SIL is the golden child. My husband always paid back any monies lent to him with interest (as demanded) and SIL just got to live at places for free. I understand PILs doing this but I can't understand why DH thinks it's fair and trying to convince me that it is and that I should feel bad for his sister.

Fuck this I’d have to say something! But we’re in a very similar situation (OP are you me from the future?!) and it’s very hard to stand by and watch. Is DH actually happy or is he saying that to not cause trouble? As that’s usually the situation here.

What is it with all these parents /PILs threads recently? Wills should be split equally, unless one has specific needs to be considered. It seems one child is always favoured over the other/s.

Not your parents, not your inheritance, not your beeswax.

It does seem unfair, but perhaps they have cash assets they intend for your DH on top of half the other house?

Nowt to do with you.

yanbu blatantly favouring the sister

My sister will have my parents’ house when they die. Already decided. She lives close to them, way closer than me - it’s the house we grew up in and she loves it dearly. And I am genuinely, hand on heart fine with that. It’s money. I have a house.

If they don't need to sell to fund elderly care ofc.

But surely she’s better off not having the house if her dh divorces her? She’d then only have half a house. After the divorce, parents could give her a whole house?

FOG stands for Fear, Obligation, Guilt. Very common in people who are around someone with a personality disorder.

I agree it isn't fair. That said, it's your ILs' money. They're allowed to decide how they want to split their assets.

I dont know what yout situation is but I dont agree that everything should always be a 50/50 split. With my mum and her brother it probably will get split like that. But my mum is on her knees financially and owns nothing wheras her brother has a big house and lots of money in the bank. Add into that he lives 50 miles away and never sees them where she sees them every week they spend xmas and holidays with her. No golden child he just cant be arsed.
Are your DH and his sisters financial circumstances quite different?

Glad that your husband isn't grabby.

What does he think about you being narked about his parents' wanting to give their daughter something?

I agree. It seems completely unfair. Siblings shoukd be treated equally.