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To be sad my DS cries at school pickup

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PixieCutRegret · 17/09/2018 15:58

My DS has just last week started at reception. Apart from a few tearful outbursts of 'I'll miss you Mummy' from him just before leaving for the school run, he has been enthusiasticly running to join the queue and going in just fine. However some days when I come to pick him up he starts crying saying he doesn't want to leave and come home, I've had to come in the classroom and coax him out. His teacher says she has never had a child do this before so I can't help but feel like a rubbish mum Sad I know I should just be happy that he is enjoying school, and part of me knows it's partly due to being exhausted as he gets tearful when tired. please tell me someone else's child did this, when did it get better?

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Aprilshowersnowastorm · 17/09/2018 16:04

If my ds now 17 had done this I would have sent him with a sleeping bag!!
Be chuffed he has settled well, maybe the promise of a film +hot chocolate would do the trick? (ds4's fav hobby atm!)

BlackInk · 17/09/2018 16:04

Aw bless him. I bet he's just been working so hard at holding it together all day at school he just gets overcome with emotions when he sees you.
Transitions are hard for lots of children. Even though he's happy at school he's probably on his best behaviour and learning so much. I bet it's partly relief that he can just let it all out because his mummy's there again and he can just be himself with you.
Even now (in year 3 and year 5) my DC save their best sides for their teachers and I get all the melt downs and moods :)

Bigheadache · 17/09/2018 16:08

My DC has been like this right from childminder to nursery to school - although it's hard I try to remember it's because he feels safe there and has lots of fun and it's a good sign. I'm hoping I won't have to carry him out over my shoulder in secondary school Grin

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PixieCutRegret · 17/09/2018 16:14

Glad I'm not alone bigheadache

That's a nice way to think of it blackink, that makes me feel loads better.

Poor kid really does remind me of myself when I have bad PMS at the moment, during the week he was emotionally all over the place! He was fine at the weekend, just a bit more tired than usual.

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Holidayfromreal · 17/09/2018 16:21

I was that kid OP, I cried every school holiday as well. It passed before I'd finished infants and then I turned into a normal school hating teenager so I wouldn't worry Smile

HRTpatch · 17/09/2018 16:22

My dd did this. Clung to the male teacher's legs and said I wish he was my daddy .Grin
She got over it by Xmas

Asterado · 17/09/2018 16:25

My DD does this! She wants to go to after school club every day, if I pick her up early I have to deal with her wrath and she often runs away and hides under a table Hmm

VauxhallVectra · 17/09/2018 16:28

My DD used to do this as well. I was a very young mother and I already felt like everyone was judging me for being a shit parent and this really really didn't help.

I once called her bluff and said "Alright I'll leave you here then and you can stay here forever" and I made a big show of walking off out of sight (assuming she'd come running after me). When I peered around the corner she was back happily playing with the toys on the mat, not giving a single shit that I'd abandoned her to live at school. Cheers.

@HRTpatch My DD once asked her male teacher to come home with us and marry me Hmm Mortified doesn't come close.

ChilliMum · 17/09/2018 16:41

My dd too. Not quite the same, was preschool.

I had to do a training course on a day which wasn't my normal day. Her usual day care was at ratio but luckily the preschool next to where I work offered to take her for me.

She had to go without any settling in and cried in the morning before. When I came at the end of the day she wouldn't even look at me. Every time I tried to go to where she was she would run away.

I thought she was angry with me, turns out she had had such a great day she had decided if she pretended I wasn't there she wouldn't have to leave Blush she sobbed as I carried her out the door.

GrimSqueaker · 17/09/2018 16:44

Seen a few do it in my time - sometimes it's just they're so emotionally overcome by seeing you at the end of the day that they can't quite sort out it being a good feeling and it all goes a bit tearful.

Mine are begging to be sent to after school club at the moment!

SomeonesSunshine · 17/09/2018 16:56

Yup my eldest used to run off and hide as soon as he saw me at preschool pick up. Every single day. I had to literally have to fireman carry him out of the place. Kind of saw the funny side but was quite hurt deep down!
Then my youngest started and he’d be prised off me at drop off.. complete opposite and equally upsetting in different ways!

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