To be upset that he took his new GF to DS school?

[afterschoolsnacks]

Just that really. We still live together, and ex has a new girlfriend, been seeing her for 4 months, and he normally does the school run, but today I went with him because it was DDs first day at school. We were just talking, and he told me he's taken his girlfriend to the school a few times when dropping DS off, she works nearby.

I don't know why I feel upset, but AIBU?

( he's moving out in two weeks time)

Forgot to add that's she's apparently met some of the teachers / parents.

I can see why this is upsetting. I personally don't feel it's appropriate. He shouldn't even have introduced her to DC only 4 months in.

However, it's one of those things you can't do anything about in reality. Unless it's causing the DC problems, you just have to let it go.

So he has shown his true colours to the teachers already.
Result surely?

@Aprilshowersnowastorm what do you mean about true colours?

When he first met her, he used to tell me things about her here and there, how small she was compared to him. He's 6"2, she's 5"2, I know he was being a dick and he just wanted to hurt me. But tbh he didn't bother me, I don't love him and didn't really care.

But this today really hurt me, I feel like it's too soon. It's too close to home, he's not even out of the house yet but he's already in a relationship and she's really involved.

Well he isn't being very respectful to you by stil living together and flaunting a new gf is he?

Good thing you don’t care about him, I’m relieved for you, he is making a dick of himself.
Yanbu to be upset but there is not much you can do.

You're hurt because you're hurt for your son, I get it. 4 months is too soon for a small child to be spending time with a new girlfriend.

for you op.
Your ex dp is being very immature and his gf sounds the same.
Don't worry,they won't fool anyone at the school/school gates,they will exactly sum up the pair of them for what they are and their sympathies will lie with you.
Hold your head up high and leave them to play their silly games.
You are well did of him.

Rid not did,sorry x

@Aprilshowersnowastorm no he's not. I do feel sorry for DS, he's only just turned 7 what must he be thinking? He's never said anything, but I can imagine it must be confusing for him. His dad still living here, and there's suddenly this new woman taking him to school

It was my decision to divorce, he has this "if you want to divorce me, I'm gonna do this" kind of attitude, so I'm not surprised he's done this.

"if you're gonna divorce me, I'm going to hurt our child". Nice. Maybe school could have a word with him? Can you ask them to ensure that no info about your DS goes to anyone other than the parents in the first instance?

YANBU to feel upset. I’m sure this was a shock and your feelings have clearly surprised you. That’s okay.

But YABU if you linger on the feeling or wind yourself up over it. YABU if you worry over things you cannot control. Don’t analyse, don’t start branding him immature, childish, a dick or trying to control him through speaking to the school.

Support your DS by teaching them resilience and not making a big deal about comings and goings of girlfriends. If your DS sees you upset about it, it’s likely he’ll be upset. Imagine if the GF has to pick him up from school one day - and he knows that you’re not okay with it. He’s going to feel awful :(

Imagine if the GF has to pick him up from school one day - and he knows that you’re not okay with it. He’s going to feel awful :(

Exactly! Thank you. It is what it is, I guess.