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AIBU?

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Can’t stop crying?

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LifeAdvice · 17/09/2018 05:13

Hi All,

Maybe not a AIBU, maybe more a what is this??

In the last three weeks, I have found tears coming from my eyes several times. Maybe like 3-4 times a week. I’m not bursting into tears....it’s just my eyes well up and overflow.

The times when it happens are a by emotional - but nothing that should provoke this response! At least, not in me and never before. Examples include:

in yoga today
when I drove past a dead bird, and another bird (it’s partner) was sitting next to it, oblivious to the danger it was in
in a reiki session (don’t believe in it, went as part of a Hen’s party)
when remembering something where I thought I was hard done by when I was 10. It wasn’t a big deal at the time and I will never see the people involved again. I didn’t even tell them I was annoyed.
and another few times

I have ruled out TOTM, I am not pregnant. I am going through a bit of stress at work and in my personal life BUT a few months ago the stress in both areas reduced a lot, and the level that remains will be the normal level I live with in this job and in life. I don’t think it’s this.

I have considered depression etc, and whilst I think I am, on a base line, a bit sadder than I normally am, I still laugh with people, have things to look forward to and don’t feel sad all the time. Just these moments when it seems extreme emotion overwhelms me and tears leak out!

I wondered if it was a “softening up the beachhead” type thing? My mind/body held it together for so long, now things are improved it’s said “ok, crisis over, time for us to fall apart!”

The other day it happened in the shower and I thought, fine. Have a good old cry, get it all out. Maybe it just needs an outlet. So I did. I didn’t feel better emotionally, just sore eyes from crying.

Any thoughts from people would be gratefully appreciated. I wouldn’t even know what dr to go to for this!

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penisbeakers · 17/09/2018 05:31

How old are you? Any chance you're perimenopausal?

sonlypuppyfat · 17/09/2018 05:36

I was like this when the hot weather stopped. I found the summer really difficult to deal with and when it stopped I kept crying I think it was the relief, I'm at a funny age as well

KitandPup · 17/09/2018 05:57

I hope you don't mind me following this. I am like this all the time. I think for me it's a side effect of SRRIs that I take. My friends and family are all used to it now. Trouble is, no one knows when I am really upset because I cry at tiny things too. I cry at happy things, sad things, about people I don't even know.

It's becoming a bit like blushing in that I get worried about it before I go out to somewhere I know will trigger it, therefore making it more likely it will happen

Anyway sorry for the thread derail. Following for ideas that might help it stop! Don't want to stop the SRRIs because I need them for other issues.

KitandPup · 17/09/2018 05:59

Oh I had a reiki sesson once at a spa and I was in floods! I'm told it can happen because it's like releasing everything. I'm not woo at all but it definitely did something

Sleepykate · 17/09/2018 05:59

I get like this sometimes. Nice things really push me over the edge especially. I don't know why. Not much help, I know!

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LifeAdvice · 17/09/2018 06:09

Thanks for your help, everyone.

To answer some questions, I’m 40, so menopause wasn’t on my radar. I have PCOS do periods are not regular, but I have been keeping track and I don’t think it is linked to that.

I’m in New Zealand, so it’s just the start of spring for me!

Just on the reiki thing - that was the first time I noticed it happening and that it has been happening since then. I don’t believe in it, but I know others do. Frankly, I don’t know much about it, so my “not believing” is more “not ever have done it or wanted to do so”. Part of me wonders if that is it? Just because I have ruled out everything else.

This is why I am asking here! I am hoping for a more rational solution that I have missed!

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pugalugs90 · 17/09/2018 06:22

Reiki made me an emotional wreck too. The lady that did it warned me before hand that I'd probably need the rest of the day off work. I didn't listen and walked out the salon in a complete daze and nearly got hit by a car. Whoops! It does something to your energy. Crying is a good thing. Get it out

manateeandcake · 17/09/2018 06:27

It does sound to me like it could be a kind of "buried" depression - which, as you suggest yourself, may be coming to the surface as the external pressure on you eases a bit. Would you consider trying some counselling or therapy?

Bue · 17/09/2018 06:34

If it has been happening only since the reiki,
I'd definitely say that is the root cause. I was very sceptical but my doula was a reiki master and did a postpartum treatment for me- it was one of the strangest experiences I have ever had. I didn't react the same way as you but there was definitely something happening energy-wise. I do think this emotional 'emptying' that you are perhaps experiencing is a common reaction to a session.

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LifeAdvice · 17/09/2018 09:53

Thanks all. I guess I feel like my emotions are very close to the surface. So these small things are happening that wouldn’t normally have a physical emotional reaction from me, but for some reason, now they are.

I was reluctant to believe it was the reiki. I still am abit. If it is, what does one do? Wait it out, and things will go back to normal? Have another session to get the “whatever”
Moving quicker?? I’m at a loss.

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RandomMess · 17/09/2018 09:56

Peri menopause starting at 40 is pretty common and can last for ages 10 years plus before the menopause turns up. Like puberty all over again...

bsbabas · 17/09/2018 09:59

I just cried about imagining getting a posh haircut.

Excited0803 · 17/09/2018 10:06

My mum got very tearful when her thyroid was under-medicated. You might want to ask your doctor to run a thyroid blood test, maybe get a full panel run in case you're short of certain minerals too.

Reiki fixed my frozen shoulder years ago and I still can't bring myself to believe in it, it doesn't satisfy the rational part of my brain that it works. I wonder if it's letting your sadness leak out somehow.

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