To want people to stop calling me skinny

[MrsHoodwink]

I come from a family of larger women and have always had GPs that believed food = love, I’ve had a strange relationship with food as a child because my DM was so poor I’d barely eat all week and then at the weekend I’d binge on a lot of cake at my GPs house

I have sisters and they are all currently overweight also my DM and StepDM. This makes no odds to me as long as they are happy and I only mention it because I would never dare bring up their weight with them yet mine is up for discussion at every visit

I’m very slim. I feel embarrassed to even say it incase I get accused of bragging I definitely haven’t done it on purpose. I eat healthily and I walk everywhere including walking the dogs and running around after two DC under 5. Think I’m about 8 stone and well under 5ft5”.

This doesn’t matter to me or my DP. I could be bigger and happy with myself. I never watch calories and order as much takeaway as I want. I don’t even own scales! But my family are obsessed with telling me I’m too skinny

“Have you stopped eating?”
“You’re all skin and bones”
“We need to fatten you up”
“You look ill”
“We need to make sure you eat something”
“Are you SURE you’ve eaten today?”

Although it doesn’t upset me too much because I’m comfortable with my body, I can’t help but be frustrated with the neverending desire to feed me or them being convinced I’m trying to starve myself. Also they make me feel awful whenever they ask my clothes size (for Xmas presents etc) saying “wouldn’t it be nice to be a size 6/8”, “my left leg wouldn’t fit in that”

For gods sake I ate birthday cake for breakfast for almost a week!

Wibu to ask them to stop? I don’t want to upset them but I just dont understand why it even needs brought up. Other than me being slim there are no other signs that would make them think I have an eating disorder and I’m starting to get a complex about discussing anything size-related with anyone I’m genuinely embarrassed to be small but at the same time i don’t want to change my body, I don’t go to the gym or do anything to intentionally be this way

I was really buff in my 20s and then got rather chubby around 30.

I've since got back I shape and noticed that a lot of people are jealous. When I'm in the office people are really insistent on me having a donut 'because it's fat Friday!' and it's like they won't take no for an answer.

Sometimes I feel like I have to eat a couple just to not appear smug (well I'm sticking to that story!).

I'm skinny too and have to put up with the stupid comments.
Look, we can eat whatever we want and not get fat, they are jealous.

Turn it round on them

Have you put on weight? Youre looking fatter
You dont look well, have you been checked for diabetes?
I think youve had enough now, no second helpings
You really shouldnt have dessert
I like your new top, i think me, dh and the kids could fit in it

Its either ok or not to constantly comment on weight/size and see how they like it

Have you recently lost weight? Do you have restrictive eating habits? Could they honestly be genuinely concerned about you?

It’s about them and them not being happy though, isn’t it? People who are genuinely happy with themselves don’t feel the need to make those sort of comments.

If that’s the case, it’s sad for them and sad for you, as it must be very frustrating to hear that all the time.

Ugh YANBU! I’m fairly slim because of medical reasons, I have a feeding tube. I get told I need to up my rate and get more feed in before I vanish. Fed up of it.

I was fat just over a year ago and definitely would have loved to be a size 6/8 and would probably have said similar.

I got a sharp lesson in “be careful what you wish for”. I’ve even had comments that at least my disease has “up sides” ffs.