Is the grass greener after ......

[Studentnurse1981]

DIVORCE ??

Can be...not sure what you're asking really?

You mean you want a divorce and wondering if you'll be happy?

It can be a long and hard struggle breaking ties and starting afresh, even if it's the right thing to do

Well it’s not a quick fix. It’s a horrible, painful process. But to quote Dolly Parton: If you want the rainbows, you’ve gotta put up with the rain.

I’m hoping so!!

For me, yes. A million times so.

(Technically not divorce as we never married, but a 10 year relationship with children)

Huge MIL ISUES and dh will not put me and kids first ! I am hugely resentful and hate him now ! Mil has even called our children to dh and said she never wanted to be a grandmother and she prefers dogs to children ! That's just one thing and there is a whole host of more disgusting things from mil

Ps . Been together 20 years since I was 17 and married ten years !

Totally understand, been there and had to leave him ( just before the wedding). Wasn't just that MIL was a total narcissistic, nasty piece of work who stole from us. But more importantly that he didn't stand up to her or put 'us' as a unit/family first. Best think I ever did. I honestly think it would have made me ill dealing with the stress she gave us. Good luck! It's such a relief once you ve done it!!

Doesn't sound like tonight is a good time to come to any decisions.

Have a good talk with him this week but make it perfectly clear what you will not tolerate and have a serious think about practicalities of any split.

Anyway

He knows how I feel but won't do anything about it as he works for her in the family business . She has him over a barrel

It could be utterly brilliant to leave, it could be a lonely journey. Everyone differs and some people boing back quickly whereas others (like me!) are left like a crushed little spider which someone has stomped on.

You really need to talk to him properly and see if you can resolve it or not but sounds like your boundaries are getting invaded and you're unhappy.

I guess it really boils down to whether your life is better with him in it or out of it.

Thanks