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To not know what to do about my son who pretended he went to a different school?

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chasethebear · 16/09/2018 21:37

My son started year 9 this September. He has a lot of friends at the other secondary school. They started a day earlier than his school did and thought it would be hilarious to go into school with his friends. Apparently they spent most of the morning trying to figure out which classes he was in and caused an uproar at the school. They ended up putting him in classes and telling him they'll sort him out on the system ASAP. DS then obviously never went back and attended his actual school. I have no idea what to do about it. I haven't been contacted and no other word has been said but I hate to think what the other school have done.

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elephantoverthehill · 18/09/2018 22:26

There is an 'add name' function on Sims. Just saying

Dieu · 18/09/2018 22:32

My eyebrows are raised at this, and I look like I've been sucking lemons Grin
Sorry OP, but I didn't find this funny in the least. And it would take one overconfident and arrogant kid to pull it off.
As if the school/teachers don't have enough on their plate, on the first day back.

BenjiB · 18/09/2018 22:33

I think it’s hilarious!

Fabricwitch · 18/09/2018 22:37

I think it's hilarious and he's right, it's better that your son went to an extra day of school than mitching off a day!
It wouldn't be awful to do nothing and forget about it, but it might be better to get him to write the school an apology letter!

sophisticatedsarcasm · 18/09/2018 22:38

I wish I’d have balls to this..l sorry but that’s really funny 😂

Mummyof0ne · 18/09/2018 23:10

I thought it was hard to get kids to school in the first place, let alone go in on their own accord!

He sounds like a cheeky little monkey, but I can’t help but laugh. This will be one story you’ll be telling for years xx

MintySweets · 18/09/2018 23:29

That's totally the sort of thing that would happen if someone just turned up and was in classes. Turning up at the office is different. If in classes they will just assume he's not on the system yet and that it's their mistake

MumsTheWordYouKnow · 19/09/2018 07:30

That’s actually very funny but odd the school didn’t notice if he was 13.

Lostandfound81 · 19/09/2018 08:11

I wish I’d have balls to this..

I don’t see this as courageous! Total lack of respect and middle finger to at teachers and school more like.

TamiTayorismyparentingguru · 19/09/2018 08:20

This is hilarious! I’ll admit to being quite a strict parent (a whole lot stricter than most of my 14yr old DS’s friends’ parents anyway) but I still find it funny.

As for the PP saying that maybe it’s a difference between English and Scottish schools and it wouldn’t happen in Scotland - I live in Scotland and I can totally see this happening.

My DS’s school is a riot of people. I have had the (unfortunate?!) pleasure of being in the school at various points in the day as I run a lunchtime club in the library and have been in classes during class time when I have needed to liaise with teachers about things. Often the kids are sitting in groups, not specifically at a set desk and DS informs me that they only have set desks for their practical subjects (Home Ec, Science, DT, Computing). The rest of the subjects they can sit where they like so a new student wouldn’t stand out.

We also live in a fairly transient city where people move all the time and it wouldn’t be uncommon at all for people to switch schools or for a new child to randomly appear.

Yes - you have to register before starting at a school, but I know of pupils who have registered on a Friday afternoon and started on the Monday morning. Data forms/health forms/school trip permission forms are usually done once term has already started so it would be perfectly possible for a student to be in school without being on the register as the paperwork hadn’t been updated. (We are now in the 5th week of term and DS says that plenty of people still haven’t handed back their data envelopes that were handed out in the first week of term. The kids are chased up with a general “please remember to return your brown envelopes” in form time each morning, but the kids still carry on with their day as normal.)

The only reason this would be unlikely to have happened at DS’s school on the first day is because they move up to the new year group in June, so while there are new starts in August - they do stand out because the class is already established with the new teacher as they’ve had them for a month already. (Still not impossible though!)

For what it’s worth I was also volunteering last week in my DD’s primary school for maths week and in one of the classes the DHT was taking the register at the start of the day and it was a paper copy of last year’s register - several kids have left and there were a few new starts so she was having to try and remember who was supposed to be there and who wasn’t. This is in a relatively small primary (2 classes per year group) and with primary pupils you’d think they would be more hot on “safeguarding”!

SherbrookeFosterer · 19/09/2018 16:12

I'm with yetanothernane, I'm afraid.

I just love spirited, disobedient children., well, so long as they aren't mine!

Bouledeneige · 19/09/2018 17:21

I think it's funny too. Presumably schools assume kids don't volunteer for a school they don't have to go to so their policies aren't exactly geared to voluntary attendees! I'm surprised he stuck it with all day though.

Sallystyle · 19/09/2018 17:42

What I don't understand is why people think he will 'go far' because he pulled a prank?

I am not saying he won't, he may well do, but pulling a prank does not show that he is going places.

I think it is a little funny and I would be having words, whilst trying to look stern.

sophisticatedsarcasm · 19/09/2018 19:47

@lostandfound81
Lighten up a bit.... 😊

Lostandfound81 · 19/09/2018 19:58

It’s odd, I am a pretty relaxed mum, even by my own children's standards!

but I genuinely would be really upset if my child did this. And concerned too. It just shows such disrespect to people who are just trying to do their job - teach / run a school.

And I think of the other children in the class that he gate crashed. Trying to learn but obviously him and his pals being disruptive.

Alpacanorange · 19/09/2018 20:07

I must be a fun sucker because I do not find this remotely funny. No wonder some kids think they can just do as they please and fuck the consequences.

Aridane · 19/09/2018 20:53

You and me both, alpaca, you and me both

Cauliflowersqueeze · 19/09/2018 21:00

How did he go into a dorm room and the tutor didn’t realise he wasn’t meant to be there. Or go into lessons all day and not get picked up by anyone?
I assume on the first day he was given his timetable and planner? How did that work when there would be no timetable for him? Does he have the planner they gave him?

Really amazed he managed to get through the day.

Mind you we had a couple of permanently excluded kids stuck their old uniform on and come into school to do some damage so it’s not totally impossible. But at least they knew their way around.

RollsEyes · 19/09/2018 22:01

So pleased that other people agree this was outrageous behaviour, and nothing to be proud of. I really feared for society for a moment, with the amount of - quite frankly - weak parenting shown on this thread.

Bouledeneige · 20/09/2018 00:14

Didn't any of you do naughty things at school? My dear departed mum told me some capers she got up to, my aunt too, I got in a few minor scrapes. All of us respectable law abiding folk - my mum and my aunt were very old fashioned and traditional and wouldn't say boo to a goose.

There are worse crimes in the world!

MarthaArthur · 20/09/2018 00:16

Thats hilarious! Grin

Also someone did this at my 6th form. He went to another college and was friends with a boy in my class and just came to our college occassionally in lessons. It was a hoot.

Katedotness1963 · 20/09/2018 01:18

I’d punish him. He disrupted classes and the first day back with his “prank”. I’d not let my kids get away with it.

Lostandfound81 · 20/09/2018 07:12

There are worse crimes in the world!

Yes there are. Pretty shite way of parenting though. To always think “well, it could have been worse”

I’m so pleased a few more have fallen on the side of - this isn’t funny. He sounds obnoxious and disrespectful.

TamiTayorismyparentingguru · 20/09/2018 07:35

🙋🏽‍♀️ Hands up all the “weak parents” in the house! 😂 [Rolls eyes at RollsEyes]

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