Party

[Minnie651]

Toddlers party over the weekend. Everyone made so much effort with nursery staff helping with the invitations, venue being amazing and guests putting in so much effort and thought into presents. Grandparents booked a holiday so didn’t attend. AIBU to be a little annoyed?

My parents booked a holiday knowing it was my baby's christening!

Lol, thank goodness it is only once a year!

Eliza9916, sadly how true

My PILs don't give a shit about our kids. They do about the other side's kids. Sad, but some are like this.

lovetherisingsun, they wouldn’t have gone on holiday over the other GC birthday however LO cried when I told her they were on holiday so that kinda annoyed me. They done the same over her due date but was glad, if I do it again I want no visitors until I can sit down without wincing!

My parents never come to DC's birthday parties (unless I specifically asked them for help). Usually the kids are far too busy with their friends and the GP would just end up hovering around the sidelines. They come up some other time to give pressies.

Not so much annoyed but disappointed - yes PFB!

Think I might set the expectation next year about the GP but reading the comments, LO may not actually care at that point

Just leave them to it Op. next time you have a party for LO, just tell them the offer is there if they wish to come and leave the ball in their court.

But honestly I would t worry about it. Don't be too disheartened

First world problem!

We’ve booked a Birthday Party in a Baby Sensory room for our PFB DS’s first Birthday Party. We’ll be having a separate family party tea as I can’t imagine the adults would imagine anything worse than having to attend! Lol. Already told my mam who is the most wonderful and involved DGM but was so relieved she didn’t have to come!
His party will be 8 other babies and their parents who I’ll buy nice cake for to dull the pain!

i love all my grandchildren but a toddlers birthday party would be my idea of hell i wouldnt have attended just dropped in a present around the birthday date

Did your DC have a lovely time? Just manage expectations next year.

We invited the grandparents to my dd’s First party. As in her first party not her first birthday. My wonderful MIL said “eee pet, it’s just a bairn’s party. She won’t care who’s there”

And she didn’t. In fact when we asked her what her favourite part of the party was it was “when everybody left”

Think my issue is more that out of all the weeks of the year, it was this one. No opportunity for separate tea parties or dropping in to wish happy birthday but cest la vie

Lolpassmethecrisps! Yes LO has a lovely day. Think now, it’s more me who is bothered 😄

For what it's worth OP I do get you, it's nice to feel your GP are doting and excited about the little milestones that are tedious to everyone else but amazing to the parents. I do think you have to manage expectations though - most grandparents love to pop in at their convenience and see what the little ones are up to but don't really want to rearrange their lives around it.

I know what you mean though - my friend's parents are super involved with her little ones - never miss a thing. Does make me feel a little jealous.

These things do matter to us though minnie. You aren’t daft for being a bit peeved. You have been terribly gracious on here I must say!

Passmethecrisps I was unanimously BU so took it on the chin!

Don't blame them 🕶🌞🍷🏝.

I think it's a bit odd. In my family, we wouldn't go on holiday when it was someone's birthday unless it was an adult and really couldn't be avoided. My mum wouldn't dream of missing one of my nieces or nephews birthdays.