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event CF-ery, unreasonanble?

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PolkerrisBeach · 16/09/2018 14:00

Couple of weekends ago it was the significant birthday of a close family member. We have a large family with lots of aunts, cousins and so on so person whose birthday it was made it crystal clear that they wanted to so something with immediate family only, not extended family. Fine. So we booked a private dining room in a local posh pub, menu choices had to be submitted a week before. Birthday person happy with that arrangement.

So the day of the meal we get a text from friends of the family. They'd heard where we were having the family meal, they'd always wanted to eat there, and surely 12 people wouldn't be any more hassle than 10? No need to worry about accommodation either, they'd just bring their caravan and leave it in the car park of the holiday apartment everyone else was staying and that would be perfect, wouldn't it?

On what planet is it acceptable to plan to gatecrash an event to which you've not been invited, has been kept small at the request of the birthday person and plan to pitch your caravan in the car park of a holiday apartment so you can join a family in their celebrations?

(Luckily the person who got the text had a quick consult with other members of the family and sent back a quick "no can do, menus arranged weeks ago and car park full" which was enough to put them off. But still. Cheeky fuckers.)

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araiwa · 16/09/2018 14:02

So they didnt go

Non-story

SassitudeandSparkle · 16/09/2018 14:03

Well if they didn't know that the birthday person wanted to keep it small I can see why they would offer to come down. Presumably someone told them about it?

PolkerrisBeach · 16/09/2018 14:06

It was general knowledge that birthday person wanted a small do - invite one aunt and several others get the hump. This was a discussion which was had many times ;-)

No they didn't come - but obviously felt their request was entirely reasonable.

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SassitudeandSparkle · 16/09/2018 14:11

I wouldn't normally expect discussions like that to be held with friends of the family, though! More like you told the rest of the family that they didn't want a big do, and all the friends heard about is 'meal at blah' and they thought they could visit for her/his birthday.

They might have the hide of a rhino and push in to everything normally, I don't know, but there are people who think it would be nice to visit their friends on a significant birthday. It doesn't seem that unreasonable. They didn't insist on coming and took the brush off.

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