AIBU to have dinner out?

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R3ALLY · 15/09/2018 22:15

Sorry if this sounds petty. My son was at a neighbors house today at a birthday party. We are all good friends, parents and kids etc. I called round for tea/ glass of wine towards end of kids party. Neighbors said there was a tonne of food prepared and did we want to stay to dinner? OH usually cooks Saturday, so I called him, checked had he started dinner. He hadn’t so I asked if it was ok that we stayed? He was invited too but said no, he’d stay home but we should go ahead. However when we got home he was in a huge sulk... said he’d been left having dinner alone and that I’d been unreasonable phoning him and ‘putting him on the spot’. Kids now upset as we are fighting... I’m upset as I feel I should have the freedom to choose my own dinner occasionally. But he says I’m selfish. AIBU or more to the point IHBU?

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Doingreat · 15/09/2018 22:23

He's being unreasonable and acting like a big baby. What's wrong with having dinner on your own once in a while? The sulking and blaming you for putting him on the spot are overreaction on his part.

Sorry10 · 15/09/2018 22:26

He should of said he did mind that you stayed for dinner when you rang . He is being unreasonable. If it was me and my dh didn't want to come to dinner with neighbour I would probably of politely declined maybe that's what he's pissed off about.

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R3ALLY · 15/09/2018 22:29

That’s what I said... I said ‘why didn’t you say this was a problem when I called?’ Instead he said ‘fine’ but sulked anyway. Everyone’s evening ruined

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happymummy12345 · 15/09/2018 22:34

If he was bothered he should have said. You asked, he said you should go ahead, if he didn't want you to he should have said no.
Sounds very childish to me.
Due to work, my husband eats at work most days he's in. In fact the only days we eat together are his days off. Otherwise we'd be eating between 11.30 - midnight every day.

Astrid2 · 15/09/2018 22:40

Jeez I can't believe people actually behave like that. He needs to grow up.

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R3ALLY · 16/09/2018 10:55

Well he says IBU. Says weekends are busy and dinner is important family time. Said I should have known this and just not called or stayed away. I apologized. Feel v stressed... I really didn’t see this as a big deal but maybe that’s my issue. I posted before about a huge row when I had to work for our wedding anniversary. I just think we see things differently

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AsleepAllDay · 16/09/2018 11:26

He's your husband but you're not his property! He should've said he DID mind so doesn't really have a leg to stand on.

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