To ask how you handle subtle (or not so subtle) digs?

[malificent7]

I never know how to respond until it's too late. For example a df has lots of kids and I have 1. I am happy with my choice and she with hers. We were discussing camping and when I suggested a bell tent to another friend my friend piped up with ' no use recommending that...he has 3 kids whereas you only have 1.' I felt this was a bit of a dig as it has nothing to do with putting up a tent unless she meant that it is harder with 3 kids.

I know the mumsnet classic is 'did you mean to be so rude!' I don't think my friend was being rude...she just cannot get her head around that I don't want lots of kids. I just wish i'd said 'what has that got to do with putting up a tent?'
I was just dumbfounded instead!

If you’re aware that you’ve always been over sensitive, can you try to take a step back and rationalise what people have said before deciding it’s a dig and being offended by it?
For example with the tent example... tell yourself ‘having one child is different to having three. This is not a dig, or suggesting that having one is inferior, it’s just different and requires different equipment’.