To fall in love with any Tom, Dick or Harriet who winks at me?

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I don't know what it is about being winked at, but it totally gives me butterflies, especially if it's a young woman (I'm happily married and mostly straight).

What random innocuous things make you fall for people?

God yes. Being winked at turns me straight into a simpering idiot. We have a very attractive pharmacist at work and whenever he asks a favour he will always say thanks and wink. I've tried to steel myself because I know it's coming but it's hopeless. It's often just a friendly gesture from people so I don't know why it makes such a big impact on me.

I do enjoy being winked at. I have a new co-worker who's a big winker, and it's really endeared him to me.

No one ever winks at me...and I'm fairly presentable. Are you a woman op? I've never had another woman wink at me..does this happen to other people?

Young women wink at you? I had no idea that was a thing, but perhaps the youth of today is more foreward and/or openly bi-curious than we were.

I know what you mean though. Some men have the ability to make you feel really special with no more than a wink or a smile. It's dangerous, because they probably act the same with everybody. There is a guy I know by sight, not exactly handsome but with a certain charisma, who always gave me this sort of look like he really appreciated me, and a long lingering smile. Then one day I decided to say hello to him and he acted really surprised and hurried off as if I were some weirdo stalker. Ironically, I then had a compulsion to covertly watch this now magnetically attractive man whenever our paths crossed, and I noticed that he has the same flirty manner with all the women he interacts with, be it a fiftysomething check out lady or a very large young lady pushing a pram, all of whom seem to respond to his charm by becoming a little bit giggly. I felt mortified of course, and wonder what he gets out of it, since he doesn't appear to be a PUA and I'm pretty sure he's single.

I now seem to be back in his good graces, as I recently got a kind of smile and a 'Hiya' in passing, and the DCs asked me who that man was! I replied truthfully that he was someone I'd met when out with DP. It just so happened that during the one week DP was visiting from France, we had walked into a tiny bar and it was empty apart from this guy. We had a brief and pretty stilted conversation, as I'd involuntarily laughed at DP's beginner English and he was getting his own back by speaking to everyone he met (in suburban Hertfordshire) in rapid French! One of those conversations where you wake up and think 'Phew, I'm glad that didn't really happen!' except that it did.

So YANBU or maybe YABU, I'm the same.

Forward, even. Duh.

Yes, I'm a woman! I don't know why it's young women particularly but I'll give you an example: I was at a music festival a few years back, went to get food from a stall, was served by this young (early 20s? I was mid 30s) boho/hippy girl. She was nice enough to look at but not stunning or anything. But she winked at me as she handed me my food and my heart backflipped. I kept going for food there the whole rest of the festival just to see her!

And yesterday a student on a bike winked at me after she stopped to let me pass with my kids. Went all wobby for a bit. Really odd.

Maybe women have been winking at me all this time and I never knew it! Probably thought they had some sort of nervous tic or something. :)

Same on all counts. Except I'm definitely not straight. YANBU!