AIBU to DP?

[Beautifulblue]

DP has taken our 14 month old out today, with his friends (dad & there kids. It's a rare occurrence. I hurt my back this morning with DD at the park (injured a while ago prone to setting it off sometimes) it's not horrendous but it is annoying & uncomfortable. So I've been on the sofa taking ibuprofen, catching up on some TV & chilling out. FOR ONCE. But before that I did tidy around. Dp just called & said his mate is coming back to have some food with his kid. This is the AIBU... I didn't say no, I can't say no his an adult. But I did say ahhh ok. He sensed my lack of excitement (I'm in my pjs here really didn't anticipate house guest especially when I've just tidied up) he just said 'yeah yeah don't worry, I'll just tell him to fuck off' & hung up... I messaged him saying I didn't say no & he can come for dinner I just wasn't expecting it. He didn't reply, tried to call back & he didn't reply. I know this is gonna turn into a row when his home now & honestly I can't be arsed. AIBU?

He didn't swear AT her.

While you didn't use the word "no", sounds like it was the clear intent of the response. And sounds like you already know that.

Op, do you have ask your partners permission to bring someone home.

I think he is being a bit U . I hate it when people unexpectedly pop in . If you’re still breastfeeding it’s awkward. All you really want to do is chill out. I would have been a bit annoyed but his carry on would annoy me more.

She's allowed feelings FFS. I hate the expectation that we should all lie and pretend to be ecstatic about shit we don't want to do. She didn't say no, she just indicated she wasn't over the moon about it. He acted like a twat.

@northernparent no of course not, but neither does he. If I phoned ahead & said so & so are thinking about coming back for food & he said ahh alright but didn't sound up to it I would probably leave it though (which he did too in his defence) sometimes you're just not up to entertaining even when your partner is. We regularly see friends or have them over so it's not a common occurrence one of us isn't up for it so I'd understand I think. Equally if he had brought the friend back, I would of got over it.

So is dp home again?