In real life it's one thing but online is totally different. I agree that horror stories shouldn't be directly shared with newbies.My first birth was tainted by some fuckwit who came back to the yoga group and went into a second by second gruesome account. That wasn't needed and the teacher, who had four children herself, was trying to guide her off as she could probably see a room full of pregnant faces going from smiles to looks of horror and fear. Done by a very self absorbed and unaware person. But on the other hand online is different, how do you strike the balance between the need for some women to talk about their experiences with others who understand and the risk of that being read by people who need to learn about childbirth? It's impossible, our spaces and places don't need academic criticism. It will put many people off mumsnet and that can have different negative consequences for some people.