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To want to stay at home

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Creeper8 · 15/09/2018 09:28

Sorry to post a christmas one so early! Anyway I am a lone parent, My plan is to spend christmas at home with just my children. However Ive been invited to a mutual friends house of me and my sisters, every year my sister and 2 other friends spend christmas together, My sister is also single as is the other friend and they both have children, another friend is hosting and they take it in turns each year.

Anyway I have been invited but said no as I want to spend it at my house with my kids for various reason. My sister keeps trying to persuade me and seems to think im “spending it by myself” despite having 4 kids Confused and that I will be “lonely” spent chistmas before with just my kids and I certainly wasnt lonely. And even yesterday she came out with “it would be different if you had a husband.” Hmm aibu to want to spend it with just my kids at home?

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PumpkinPie2016 · 15/09/2018 09:50

YANBU - plan your Christmas to suit you and your children. You won't be leaving either of them on their own so I don't see why you can't have it at home.

Sassielassie · 15/09/2018 10:00

YANBU. Its your Christmas. You get to choose whats going to make you happy. One of my favourite Christmases was when me & my DH moved into our 1st house. We spent it on our own in our new matching dressing gowns slobbing about watching rubbish tv and eating. It was totally selfish and stress free. Explain to your sis that u understand why she thinks you will be lonely but reassure her that you will be fine. That this year you want to have your kids all to yourself and have a Christmas in your jammies. No stress or pressure to go anywhere or do anything and just let the kids play with their gifts and spend time together making memories. Why dont you invite your sis round for boxing day and she can spend time with you and the kids. That way she still gets a day with her family over the festive period as maybe its actually your sister who dosent want to miss out on your company over the hols as its become kind of a tradition. She obviously cares for you a great deal or she wouldnt be pushing the issue.

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Creeper8 · 15/09/2018 10:03

Its not a tradition for me I only went once last year and didnt really enjoy it. they have been doing it for about 4/5 years now.

But the boxing day thing is a good idea so something to think about.

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SuckOnTHATRyan · 15/09/2018 10:04

Yanbu.

Lethaldrizzle · 15/09/2018 10:05

I think it's more about what the kids want to be honest

SuckOnTHATRyan · 15/09/2018 10:13

I dunno lethal. My 3yo would choose to see people who were basically strangers if offered. On any day, including Xmas. She just loves to socialise. Actually she’d probably choose soft play or swimming if given the choice on Xmas day!

Some days are for family though and Xmas is one of those days for our family. I wouldn’t want to spend it with a friend personally. Not the whole day anyway. We do visits on the day, but don’t spend all day with people who aren’t family. It’s family tradition for us. But not everyone wants the same.

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Creeper8 · 15/09/2018 10:17

I dont consider it the kids decision tbh

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