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AIBU?

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To ask you for something comforting

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GlossyGlossy · 14/09/2018 21:59

to watch?

DP told me our relationship is over. He hasn't been home since he finished work and I haven't heard from him. I'm not sure he means it or if he was just angry.

I have alot of other things going on too, I just want something comforting to watch/distract me - nothing too happy. Last night I watched Almost Famous which helped. I like Ferris Bueller, Pretty in Pink, Juno etc.

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StillSmallVoice · 15/09/2018 11:34

How are you this morning? That was extraordinarily mean of him. You can buy a new remote quite cheaply I think. You could get one and keep it from him, so at least you can watch something if you want.

Have some and

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GlossyGlossy · 15/09/2018 19:22

Feel like crap. It became public today and it's hard carrying on when people are trying to talk to me about it and all I want to do is be alone.

I think in the long run it's for the best but it's his decision to give up, not mine.

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RayRayBidet · 15/09/2018 19:43

Six days, seven nights always makes me feel happy.
Sorry you are having a bad time op, hope things get better

JayDot500 · 15/09/2018 19:49

Dead Poet's Society... It's got Robin Williams and definitely not a happy movie.

Sorry you're going through this OP

MrsStrowman · 15/09/2018 19:58

OP if you still can't find your Rennie there are free apps you can download that work with most TV s, if you have Netflix (or sign up for a free trial) glow is great and had some positive female friendship elements to it. I also like grace and Frankie, starts off with two women losing long term marriages, how they cope etc, but it's funny

Thesmallthings · 15/09/2018 19:59

I'm sorry your going through this, but it sounds like he was bit of a dick. Hiding the remote? who does that?

Criminal minds is always my go to.

How about a shake about to distract you? Moving rooms around redecorating? Also new hair cut always makes me feel good

Out with the old and in with the new.

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GlossyGlossy · 15/09/2018 20:03

I can't move anything about or redecorate, the house is his and I'll need to move as soon as I can work out how.

Not sure where to begin, I live payday to payday as it is, I need to somehow find first months rent/deposit on new place as well as paying my way here for the time being.

Sorry for the gloomy attitude haha, and thanks for all the suggestions of films and things, I might watch one or two on my day off tomorrow and ignore housework.

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aaaaargghhhhelpme · 15/09/2018 20:04

Hey op. Hope you’re feeling ok today

It’s shit and I’m sorry. But you don’t need a remote hider in your life.

Fwiw I’m a big fan of bingeing on comedy shows. Whatever tickles you. I love all 4 for Spaced, black books, father ted and the IT crowd.

Take care.

aaaaargghhhhelpme · 15/09/2018 20:10

Bugger. Cross posted with you!

Could he take a little cut in how much you pay - it’s in his benefit too so you can get out. Or can you go crash with a friend/family for a bit? Sorry. Must be tough to still be there in ‘his’ house.

Thesmallthings · 15/09/2018 20:11

Ugghh just what you need, more stress.

Are you able to speak to the council and see if they can put you up?

I know there's alot off stress and things to do, but you will get there, and it'll be the beginning of a new chapter... one where you can watch what ever the fuck you want!!

showmeahero · 15/09/2018 20:12

Little Miss Sunshine ☀️
Wonderful warming Film, sorry to hear you're having a rotten time

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GlossyGlossy · 15/09/2018 20:17

Reluctant to go to the council - all the council areas here are incredibly rough (especially the ones for emergency/temporary) and I have DS from a previous relationship to think about. I've found somewhere affordable I like the look of and I suppose will need to try and negotiate with now-ex about what I pay.

My brother has offered me to stay with him but his wife is just starting maternity leave and they live a bit out of the way for my work/DS school - any money I saved crashing there would be spent travelling.

I do think it'll be easiest to stay put, maybe scrape together the rent and try a deposit scheme for the rest. I'm technically a single parent now so I think I'd be eligible for assistance.

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Chosenone · 15/09/2018 20:33

How about the Royale family on Netflix as suggested on a different thread. Hold your head up high and stay positive. You can do this! ask for help when you need it and take all the support you can

WhoWants2Know · 15/09/2018 20:40

This week, someone reminded me about Bob Ross and The Joy of Painting. I'm not sure if it's still on Netflix, but definitely on YouTube. It's immensely soothing

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GlossyGlossy · 15/09/2018 20:49

I love Bob Ross! His voice puts me to sleep, which might be helpful :)

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Angie169 · 15/09/2018 20:49

I hope you get over the break up soon ,
I like the escapism of animated films so for me it would be Ants , toy story , Chicken run etc.

Usually he has monopoly over telly as I don't bother much but I put a film on last night before bed and I suspect he put the remote away so I couldn't do that again
This is very childish and premeditated behaviour, If he does come back ( and you want him in your life ) he had better be VERY good at groveling

StillSmallVoice · 15/09/2018 21:02

Have a go at candy crush or something similar. They're a good way of zoning out. They can be very addictive though. When everything went pear shaped for me, I bought books of sudoku puzzles. When things are really difficult something trivial like that can help. Stops you dwelling and making things worse in your mind.

More and

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GlossyGlossy · 16/09/2018 00:56

StillSmallVoice Thanks for that, I've ended up playing Solitaire most of the evening, just enough to distract me but nothing too taxing.

He has come home and went straight to sleep without a word

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StillSmallVoice · 16/09/2018 09:13

Ahh..Solitaire. I used to do that a lot too. He came home? Hope you are OK.

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