Second hand Xmas gift

[rackhampearl]

Just looking for some opinions. I always start Christmas shopping around this time of year (don't flame me) so anyway I've gone onto fb and seen a little wooden kitchen for sale. My 3 yo DD has asked Santa for one this year so I asked the seller some questions she said it was like new ect and I thought bargain at £20 I'll pop it away in garage. When I got there it had some marks on, nothing major but you can certainly tell it's second hand. I still bought it (at a lower price) but just wondering if you think it's ok to give for a Xmas present still? I don't struggle for money or anything so don't want to be tight but I'm just trying to teach my girls about being mindful not so much of money but of the planet, consumerism ect. The kitchen will serve the same purpose as a new one and I know she'll love it but I'm curious to see if you think it's a stupid/tight idea to give a second hand gift for Xmas? Any of you guys done/do this?

Parents have done this for generations. There's nothing wrong with it.

I think it's fine! Your DD will love it and you got a bargain. Win/win

Give it a rub down if needed and get a fab set of pans and food to go with it.

Your DD won’t know x

She’s only 3, I’m 100% certain she will be over the moon to have her own toy kitchen

Single, the OP wants her DD to know, so she can teach her to be mindful of consumerism.

When I was about 4, my Mum and Dad gave me a huge tin rocking horse that used to belong to my cousin.

Best present I ever had and I couldn't have cared less where it came from.

Nothing wrong. Your DD is unlikely to notice or care.
You either get to save money or buy more with the same amount.

She is 3.

She won't notice it is second hand, unless some arsehole of a relative points it out in front of her.

My 7yo has had some 2nd hand stuff, some charity shop books - he can't tell the difference but then neither has it been pointed out.

Oh, he had a big Moto garage at 3yo with 3 levels and a lift etc etc. I found it on the street we have only just got rid of it and he never asked where it came from or who bought it. Actually no one did.

have a friend who just wrapped up his twins existing presents for christmas and 1st and 2nd birthdays. They didnt have a clue

So far all of DS' Xmas pressies are second hand! One of them even requires fixing! So certainly YANBU.

Also FYI I'd be happy with a second hand gift (I think as long as you would be then that be fine!)

At 3 yo I think it's absolutely fine and unless you tell her she will not know (and I would not tell her). However if you do want her to be mindful then why not make a nice note from Santa explaining that this kitchen used to belong to another little girl who had so much fun with it once she was older she asked Santa to gift it to a special little girl to have as much fun as she did? And that he picked her... Extra special present from Santa 😍

Absolutely fine at 3. I still do it at 9 yo tbh.

I've seen lots of listings on Facebook and eBay for personalised kitchens (charging a fortune as well!) especially the ikea ones. With spray painted taps and buttons/knobs, painted doors, worktop covering and funky splash back etc.

If you could do this it wouldn't even look like it was second hand.

She won't care. I did the same for my daughter. Kitchen had stickers on from another little girl and she was not bothered at all. Her bike belonged to another kid first and she doesn't care. She asks questions about the kids that had them before. Even if you didn't tell her I'm not sure she would notice

All of our kids bikes have been second hand. We clean them up and put on a new bell etc but the kids are just so excited they don't care one bit (eldest two are 8&9)

I doubt she'd even notice if half the paint was missing .

Both of mine have had secondhand Christmas and birthday gifts, some great bargains, most had some small signs of previous use (as expected) and DS even had DD's old (and some what scuffed) LeapPad for his 3rd birthday. I got him some 'new' secondhand games to go with it. We probably spent under £10 on his birthday, but he was delighted.

I have once re-wrapped some unused colouring books, long forgotten in the cupboard, and popped them in DD's stocking! That was probably a bit random but I just needed a bit more to pad it out.

I will probably scour the charity shops from now on for more little bits and pieces.

Sorry for the delay in replying. I worked nights thurs and fell asleep after a sniff of vodka last night 😂 You're all totally fab and confirmed exactly what I've thought she won't care, shes 3! And I actually love the idea about a note about it belonging to someone else. That really is teaching her what I would like to teach her. My eldest favourite toy is a classic care bare figurine my Dad had bought her from charity shop when she was 2, she's 7 now! I don't know why i doubted myself.

I was coming in to say I always did for my dc when younger!most mums do, those loaded and those struggling! All did car boots, charity shops etc ebay.
Male the most of it while you can

Oh no I don't like note idea at all. Just give it.

Mine are under 12 and still get mix of second hand and new, infact younger dd has four stunning Disney dresses stored I got for a 5 each! They are the full proper super expensive Disney dresses and the older has some second hand books off ebay coming to her.

Just gave my three year old a wooden Melissa and Doug castle that we got on eBay for half the price of new. She adores it.

I don't remember getting any brand new "big" presents when I was wee. Second hand bikes, dolls' house etc.