To just keep worrying

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I'm sorry for posting here I just want some advice.

I'm currently about 5 weeks pregnant (hard to know exactly as I know roughly when I ovulated but had a chemical pregnancy last time). This year I've lost a baby at 13 weeks and had two chemical pregnancies.

I'm stressed.

I don't know what to do. I keep thinking I'm losing this baby too, peeing on sticks left right and centre which I know is daft anyway as I'd still show up pregnant even if pregnancy isn't progressing.

On Wednesday I had loads of symptoms eg nausea. Today and yesterday I don't seem to have any, I feel a little sick but I think my brain is just searching for any signs. I had cramps at the beginning but now nothing.

Please give me advice. I can't cope losing another baby. I can't face telling my employer I've lost another. I wouldn't have told them this early but I have to for my job.

Today I did a clear blue digital with fmu and it said 1-2 weeks but surely it should have said 2-3?

I know no one can give me answers and it's just a waiting game but I just can't focus and I'm sat here stressing myself out (even worse for baby!)

Thank you if you read all this.

Didn't want to read and run but I'm so sorry you've been through so much. If I were you I'd speak to the GP and explain the situation. They may or may not offer you an early scan but I'm sure they will do their best to reassure you x
Sending big hugs xxxx

It's understandable to be worried when you've had multiple miscarriages OP. Please don't read into the fact your symptoms aren't as strong as they were the other day. Ime pregnancy symptoms like sickness, tiredness, feeling yuk don't kick in until at least 6 weeks.

If you can stop testing and try and just give yourself time. No amount of worrying will change anything. You have as much a chance as the next person to have a healthy pregnancy so please try and keep this in your mind.

Sending you a big hug and lots of calming vibes. Is your DH supportive?

I'm sorry OP

Please don't overthink your symptoms and as another poster said, many don't have any symptoms until a good few weeks later. In fact, apart from tiredness, I didn't really have any symptoms. So please don't stress about your symptoms or lack of them.

Have you got much support? I think it will help to be open about how you feel to loved ones. They might be able to ease your stress. And/or it could be a good idea to talk to your GP?

Today I did a clear blue digital with fmu and it said 1-2 weeks but surely it should have said 2-3?

They are not massively accurate from what I have read and you are not sure exactly when you ovulated. Try and keep as calm as you can and focus on taking care of yourself

If you're really stressed about it, could you afford an early reassurance scan? I was worried I had an eptopic pregnancy so needed to go in for NHS scans at 6 and 8 weeks (turned out to just be an ovarian cyst) and found seeing the heartbeat very reassuring. Private scans can be pricey but the pregnancy tests must be too.

Thank you ladies :-) I have an early scan booked for in two weeks :-) hopefully that will give us answers. I'm just scared in case we go and it's bad news or we go and it's too early so we have more waiting !
My Dh is very supportive :-) but I think he doesn't really get that I'm so worried. He keeps saying how I am pregnant today etc and to focus on that. I just feel a complete failure. I can clearly get pregnant so why can't I keep a healthy pregnancy? I'm only 28, I don't eat massively healthily but since being pregnant I have stuck to what is good for baby! Everything I do I think about if it could cause harm.

I think part of my biggest fear is we knew something was wrong with the first pregnancy from our scan at 8 weeks, baby had a heartbeat but they weren't happy with growth so we had scans every week until the heart stopped at 13 weeks. It's really thrown me into a world of fear. I can't do all that again.

Your DH is right. One day at a time.
You are not a failure. Your previous miscarriages were out of your control, sadly they are common but you must remember that so many women that have them go on to have a healthy baby.

Take this time till your scan to look after yourself. Rest, relax, get some sleep and eat well.

Let us know how you get on