AIBU to keep my 1 afternoon off a week quiet?

[Digdeep79]

I work full time but my hours mean I can leave work at 1pm on Tuesday. I have 5 children and a busy life and just crave some 'me' time. As such I have never told friends that I have this afternoon off a week or I will get booked up.

I told a colleague this and she can't understand why I just want my own company like this! I am surrounded by people and children 24/7, so 3 hours peace is heaven

God no, I'm about to turn down a full time position (I work pt) cos I would lose my extra days off and despite the obvious money advantage I just don't want to give up those extra days to myself while my DD is in school.

Tulip how cheeky of your colleagues to question why you would book a day off to spend with you dh without kids! Spending time with him is just as important as it is with the kids.

You should say you're planning on spending it as a day of shagging!

It's entirely your business and imo you are quite right to have some time to yourself. Being on your own is lovely especially when you're usually surrounded by people. Enjoy it!

I have a gap in my week that virtually nobody knows about, only DH and DC. Colleagues and clients think I work then so nobody expects me to do anything instead.

OP tell nobody about your free hours, they are very precious.

I've just moved house to be able to get some me time! We are now back near family as DH is away all week so I have support, people to look after DD, and hopefully a bit of time where I can go out and just mooch about after work.

Time to yourself is very precious and so important for mental health. You've been wise.

Absolutely NBU!

Ahhh, see I'm a supply teacher with just 2 days availability a week. So although people know I don't have children 2 days a week, they can never be sure if I'm actually free or teaching somewhere. It's perfect! People don't try and 'book me' for stuff as I might have to cancel if I get work. But around 50% of the time I'm not working. So I get me time and 'life maintenance' time.

In honesty though it is a true sanity saver. And I mean that in its purest form, I truly felt I was starting to lose it a couple of years ago. I hadn't had a 'day off' in 3 years and I was starting to go mad. Now I generally get 4 -6 hours as week to myself to get family and personal jobs done. I feel like a whole person who can think properly again.

No YANBU at all. And enjoy your cheeky me-time afternoons! You deserve it.

EVERYONE needs 'me-time!'

I changed my hours so I now have Fridays off. Kids are in school, DH is at work. I lie on the sofa with the cat, reading my book and listening to the fucking glorious sound of SILENCE.