To ask will I ever get used to living here?!

[Wellfuckmeinbothears]

So, I was born and raised in a small market town in Oxfordshire. Very quaint, very naice. Moved to a similar market town in Hertfordshire with dh, again very lovely and quiet. We decided to move in with dh’s dad to allow us to save for a deposit and we plan to be here for 5 yearsish. This is the house dh grew up in and so he knows the area well, went to school here etc. This is in London. It is so, so different to what I’m used to and I’m terrified I’m never going to get used to it! I went out today and people are rude, teenagers are scary, traffic is loud all night long. I don’t understand the buses..it’s just all so new and scary! I don’t dislike it persay, it just scares me. I know I probably sound a bit pathetic but it’s such a huge change! I am excited about having the capital on our doorstep, there are loads of exciting new places to see and things to do. I have BPD and anxiety which probably contributes.

Has anyone else made a move from a MSM all town to a city and got used to it?

It takes a year to get used to it, is my rule of thumb. Then it seems like time has slowed down when you go anywhere else

London is just a place which is big and has lots of people.

Indeed. But ..... not big enough to avoid bumping into the cockwombles that you're trying to avoid. I thought that London was big enough for that but the buggers still manage to find you

YANBU. I lived in south London until I was 36, when I moved to a rural part of Sussex.

27 years later, I find it intimidating when I go back. It's not so much the people, but the traffic - I hate trying to cross busy roads - and the endless bloody noise.

Mind you, going to Brighton does my head in now, I've turned into a proper country bumpkin.