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Who was being unreasonable? Light hearted

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loubluee · 13/09/2018 17:01

This happened a few months ago but the subject was brought up last night between me and three friends, the outcome was one sided with me and the other two sided together. This is more light hearted but I’m just curious what others would have done.

Me dp and 2 dc were on holiday earlier this year. We were waiting for our transfer. We had booked a private taxi. Whilst waiting a young couple who I would estimate to be 18/19 were also waiting for their transfer.

Ours arrived and I noticed the girl was crying. I asked if she was ok, and her boyfriend (I assume), said they thought they may have missed their transfer. I asked what airport and it was the same we were going too. Our ‘taxi’ was an 8 seater for 4 of us.

I asked our driver if they could come with us, and she said it was up to us as we had paid for it. So I said to the couple to come with us, it was already paid for. The boy said yes please, however the girl was worried about theirs arriving.

We packed up, and had to go, so I offered again, but the girl declined. Dp said we could continue calling their transfer company on the way until they got hold of someone and cancel their pickup. But the girl was too worried and they stayed behind.

So talking last night, one friend said yes she would have offered too. However the other two friends said they would offer but would ask the couple for half of the payment as they were now using it.

My argument was, it was paid for anyway and if my teens had been stuck like that, I hope someone would be kind enough, if they were able too, to offer help them out. (But we would have offered anyone in that situation help it wasn’t just because they were young adults).

So I’m curious, who would offer a ‘free’ lift and who would offer with the condition that they pay?

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nellieellie · 13/09/2018 17:03

Free. It’s paid for already. You’re not losing anything by giving a lift, but it helps them (or would have done if they’d accepted)

BrazzleDazzleDay · 13/09/2018 17:04

Im with you! Strange to ask for money

Finfintytint · 13/09/2018 17:06

Wouldn't ask for a contribution at all. It's a nice thing to do for someone.

LeroyJenkins · 13/09/2018 17:11

i would offer for free too

Creeper8 · 13/09/2018 17:17

Weird to be worrying about this months later

Charlie97 · 13/09/2018 17:19

As you did, lovely gesture!

HenryInTheTunnel · 13/09/2018 17:27

Who said anything about worrying about it? She even put Lighthearted in the title fgs.

Charlie97 · 13/09/2018 17:33

@Creeper8 OP said in came up in conversation last night so is at the fore front of her mind. She also put lighthearted in the title!

Put the mood hoover away!

ginnybag · 13/09/2018 17:36

A nice thing to do that cost you nothing to help out a couple of kids probably travelling abroad alone for the 1st time.... What's to think about? Of course you're not unreasonable.

cookiesandchocolate · 13/09/2018 17:47

More concerning that 2 of your friends wouldn't want to help out in circumstances that wouldn't put them out at all and meant a young couple would no longer be upset.
Yanbu, but you know that

Creeper8 · 13/09/2018 18:41

Its abit of a non issue tbh.

YeTalkShiteHen · 13/09/2018 18:44

I’d offer since it was paid already, like you did OP. I’d have done it for the same reasons too.

Charlie97 · 13/09/2018 19:17

@Creeper8 is it? Like 95% of the posts?

Who pissed on your chips today?

cheesefield · 13/09/2018 19:22

It sounds like the girl was upset and due to their ages it could have been their first time abroad without "grown ups".

I'd have let them come for free. They'd remember a kind family that helped them and it might want to make them be kind in future. Kindness spreads.

Katedotness1963 · 13/09/2018 19:29

I would not have asked for money whatever their ages. It was already paid for so the money was already spent on my peace of mind over the transfer. Sometimes isn’t it just nice to be nice?

Bluntness100 · 13/09/2018 19:32

Seriously? How old are your friends they would have asked teenagers for money. I mean how much was the transfer, you were going that way anyway,

I'd have offered the lift and no I wouldn't have charged them. Shocked any proper grown up would.

trilbydoll · 13/09/2018 19:32

Was it the end of the holiday? Chances are they'd spent all their money anyway if they offered a token amount I'd take it in case they were worried about causing offence but I wouldn't ask, and I wouldn't expect anything. As you say, it makes no difference to you.

Creeper8 · 13/09/2018 19:33

Im fine thanks!

its just a weird thing to be

Creeper8 · 13/09/2018 19:34

*obsessing about months later.

batshitbetty · 13/09/2018 19:34

Free, it would cost nothing extra to give them a lift and I'm not a tight bastard

Blameanamechange · 13/09/2018 19:34

It's nice that someone us truly altruistic. Rarely happens these days! Polish your halo you deserve it. And be glad you have one decent friend. As for the other 2-ltb's

Urubu · 13/09/2018 19:35

I would have offered it for free as well.

Charlie97 · 13/09/2018 19:50

@Creeper8 she's NOT obsessing she said it's LIGHTHEARTED! She also said it cane up in conversation LAST NIGHT, hence asking the question!

So tell me @Creeper8 what would you have done in the same situation?

tangoed2 · 13/09/2018 19:54

Same as you and everyone else OP, unless it was Creeper then I would have left them for purposefully being annoying and ignoring everything the OP said. LIGHTHEARTED

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loubluee · 14/09/2018 00:48

Not obsessing at all I can assure you of that Lol

As I said it just came up in conversation over a bottle of wine. I was shocked that two adults wouldn’t think of helping. I know they were young adults themselves, and many travel the world at their age no problem etc. But she was visibly upset and he was up for a lift. I was shocked that my two friends would have helped but asked for the money when it was already paid for and was no inconvenience. Again i’ll say we would have offered no matter how old they were. They looked stuck and we had a solution.

I was just curious as to who else would help and who would ask for money that’s all!

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