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Bloody neighbours

37 replies

figelnarage · 13/09/2018 08:10

I just need to vent really.

My neighbours moved in around a year ago and had some renovations to do and a small extension so it has been bang bang, drilling since then (semi-detached). Fair enough, the guy did come round and introduce himself and let us know. Sometimes the banging would be at 10pm at night and early on a Sunday morning. Although this was annoying it didn't wake my, now, 2 year old so I said nothing.

At one point we were woken in the middle of the night by a guy in a mask testing for CO as their alarm had gone off. Again, not their fault. It was the wife who had called them as the husband was away and he came round a few days later to apologise. I assured him no need, better to be safe than sorry.

The road we live on is very narrow and it's extremely difficult to get off the drive if someone is parked at the bottom. Someone kept dumping a white car at the bottom of my drive. I had no idea who this was as it didn't seem to be any of my neighbours.

One morning as the car was being left there I went out and asked the person if he could please not park right at the bottom of my drive as it was making it difficult for me to get out. It was a polite request to move just a few feet. He moved his car much further down the street. I then noticed him getting into wife from next door's car. So essentially he was leaving his car there all day and getting a lift from her.

Because the husband had always been really polite I decided to go and speak to him that evening. I asked politely if his visitors could park outside his house rather than at the bottom of my drive as it made it difficult to get out. I was polite, I realise they are doing nothing illegal just inconsiderate (didn't say that to him).

He was a bit standoffish saying if there was nowhere else on the street to park they would park there. I explained that there were never any other cars on the street outside their house, only this white car outside mine at the bottom of the drive. Thought all was okay.

This was a few months ago. Now they ALL park at the bottom of my drive when they are visiting. Even if there is nobody parked outside their house. And if I ever tend to be outside or in a room that faces the road when they do they glare in.

Last night the black car visitor which tends to park at the bottom of my drive in the evenings after the white car has left and all weekend was parked outside their house. Late last night they moved the car to the bottom of my drive where it is still sitting now. There is nothing parked outside their house.

Why are they doing this? AIBU to be wound up by this? WWYD?

Sorry for massive post but didn't want to drip feed.

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Catastic · 13/09/2018 08:34

Why are they doing this? They are assholes.

AIBU to be wound up by this? Not at all. But you can't let them get to you.

WWYD? Buy windchimes and start playing country and western music in the garden while I put the smelliest fertiliser on my plants, but then I'm petty AF.

Seriously though OP Flowers. They are dreadful people.

figelnarage · 13/09/2018 08:39

Thanks so much for your reply catastic, really made me giggle.

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Singlenotsingle · 13/09/2018 08:41

Park there yourself! If you can't get out because their car(s) are in the way, what else can you do?

figelnarage · 13/09/2018 08:43

I can get out single just have to do about four manoeuvres to get turned once I'm far enough down the drive and then drive up the pavement to get straight and onto the road. I have parked there a few times myself but just feel I am being petty.

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Caselgarcia · 13/09/2018 08:45

I'd start parking at the end of the drive (where the black/white car park),so they can't. If asked by neighbours why, act all wide eyed and innocent and say ' I can't get off my drive when cars park here, so I've got to. Its bloody annoying though.....'

AllyMcBeagle · 13/09/2018 08:49

YABU for not providing a diagram. It's mandatory for parking threads Wink

Catastic · 15/09/2018 11:35

How is it going OP?

Thatssomebadhatharry · 15/09/2018 12:01

Diagram is required.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 15/09/2018 12:05

Definitely park there yourself.
It's not that you are stopping them from parking at all, just they will have to park outside neighbours house

figelnarage · 15/09/2018 12:47

👋🏻

Well, the black at parked at the bottom of my drive again last night. Nobody parked outside their house. When I was closing my son's curtains I saw the son putting stuff into his car in his socks and then going back in to the house. Anyway, it was gone when I was closing my curtains a few hours later.

I just don't understand why they are doing it? Surely it would have been more convenient for him too if he didn't have to walk so far.

I'm not going to park on the road as I think this will only serve to prove they are getting to me.

I am trying to rise above it but it is very hard not to get pissed off!

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figelnarage · 16/09/2018 09:46

Black car just arrived at the bottom of my drive as I was changing my bed. He looked right at me so I shook my head at him. He reversed to outside his parents house!! Hurrah. He'll be parked there again tomo though no doubt.

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figelnarage · 28/09/2018 12:52

So on Thursday morning the white car was positioned in such a way that I actually couldn't get off my own drive, I had to drive across my neighbours to get onto the street.

I thought I've had enough of this, I am going to park there from now on as per the MN advice. So, Thursday night and last night I parked there.

I've come back this lunch time and parked on my drive as they won't have visitors during the day on week days.

You won't believe it...the neighbour has decided to park there now.

Honestly!!!! What is happening here???

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happygirly1 · 28/09/2018 12:56

Sounds like it's getting silly now. Can't you just speak to them?

happygirly1 · 28/09/2018 12:57

Ask why they're going out of their way to make difficult the life of someone who was extremely accommodating when they needed understanding neighbours?

Pissedoffdotcom · 28/09/2018 12:58

Park outside their house.

figelnarage · 28/09/2018 13:00

I already did speak to them happygirl, it got worse after that

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Hodgehegg · 28/09/2018 13:11

Seriously from past experience id go round again OP. Be super polite and explain that if things keep going like this you're going to have to park on the street permanently so you know you can get out when you need to. I'd explain if someone's outside your house then you'll have to park outside theirs instead and everything will get rather silly (with a tinkly laugh!) Im afraid ive encountered people like your neighbours before and they enjoy causing situations like this and they usually escalate. Try to nip it in the bud now. Good luck. I'm sorry people are deliberately making your life difficult.

Catlickingtail · 28/09/2018 13:23

Sometimes I think that you just need to bite the bullet and be nice (through gritted teeth) to your neighbours in order to maintain a pleasant atmosphere. They are wrong, of course, but the situation right now is horrible for you. And, to be honest, legally they can park there so it's best to find a compromise.

I would honestly go and have a chat. Explain that you are concerned you upset them, and you're sorry for that as it was not your intention. Ask if you can talk about the car parking and restate that parking outside your drive it makes it really hard for you to get out, and ask them to try to manoeuvre out of your drive when the car is parked there (they might honestly not realise and think you're over reacting). If they refuse then explain that you will have to park on the road as you don't want to damage your car and you hope they understand that it's not out of spite but necessity. Keep it all light and be nice.

It sounds like you're well on your way to a dispute with your neighbour and think how much more pleasant it would be to avoid that?

Biancadelriosback · 28/09/2018 13:34

Just ask them outright why they are parking there. I'd also let them know that if you are blocked in again you will report the car. Definitely just start parking there from now on. Also, diagram!

RandomMess · 28/09/2018 13:39

Get an old banger tax it etc park in that spot but a few feet further up so you can access the road from your drive more easily.

Rainbowtrain · 28/09/2018 13:52

I need a diagram OP 🤓

starfishmummy · 28/09/2018 13:59

Can penguin billiards be used here?

StoneofDestiny · 28/09/2018 20:46

They are bullying you, and like all bullies they are just sad inadequate specimens. They sound like the kind of dicks that thump their own chests with their fists.

MadisonMontgomery · 28/09/2018 20:52

I would buy a £200 old banger from a selling site and dump it there permanently.

candlefloozy · 28/09/2018 20:58

I need a diagram. I cannot work it out

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