to think that if you can't wash yourself, don't sit becky to someone else on a train?

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Sat on the train, enjoying my lovely journey, managed to get a seat, and a bloke has just sat next to me who absolutely stinks of urine and sweat. I feel physically sick, am 32 weeks pregnant so don't really want to stand otherwise I would. It's disgusting.

AIBU to think that if you've got enough resources to buy yourself an iPad, iPhone, Bose headphones, etc etc that you should be able to find the resources to keep yourself clean? He's got a lanyard on showing where he works and I'm surprised they haven't said anything to him if this is the norm for him!

I understand some people have poor mental health and hygiene becomes an issue, however I don't feel this is the case with most.

I know I'm boring and having a moan but I feel 🤮

Becky? 🤣 oops. That's meant to say 'next!'

Trying to breathe without actually breathing.

That is grim ☹️

Perhaps he's going home after a long shift, or is running late, or has something terrible going on. Or perhaps he has anosmia. He hasn't done it deliberately to upset anybody so try being a bit more patient and breathe through your mouth or move?

Agree, OP. It’s just inconsiderate.

Yanbu. I commute into London every day and the number of people absolutely reeling of BO, urine etc is astounding sometimes.

Just sit there holding your nose, he'll get the message I'm sure!

No chance of moving the train is like a tin of sardines! He's definitely not been for a run... he's on his way to work he's chatting away to his colleague behind him about their plans for the day.

I'm not going to sit here and make him feel bad of course by holding my nose or moving on a super packed train to go an stand in a corner.

I just wish people would meet with warm water and deodorant a little more frequently!

Whatever his reasons are I feel for you. My sense of smell was very acute during pregnancy and I had to get off more than one tube because someone was eating something smelly or had put too much perfume on. I’d literally gag.

i totally agree with you op. i wouldnt want to be touched by his clothing. i dont know what could be done for that.

Also does anyone else think that breathing through your mouth when there's a bad smell is actually worse? If something smells horrendous I would never choose to breathe through my mouth!

I love that no matter what the situation, someone on MN will find a reason why the person is not at fault!
Op I agree with you

Carry lavender or mint essential oil with you to sniff - it helps. Or be really obvious and slather vaporub under your nose! 😂

I thought this was going to be about Becky with the good hair 🤷🏽‍♂️

I have stinky colleagues. I just spray loads so I don’t have to endure it, bad for the environment and awful for people that hate spray but I cannot sit down inhaling BO all day

Totally no excuse for it. We went to the theatre a couple of weeks ago, the man in front had long unwashed hair and beard and kept his smelly anorak on all the way through. I had to keep smelling my wrist for the perfume to stop me gagging. He was with two washed clean people. He literally reeked of 'bed' and BO. Still at least it wasn't unwashed manly trousers.

And actually I'd say something. You are pregnant, that's a total get out clause. It might shock him into upping his game.

Gruesome 🤮
Typical MN, though, people rushing to suggest he might be completely unable to help this, including possible sudden onset loss of sense of smell!!
Bet you wish you’d had that this morning, op?

You should take a tip from Clarice Starling and smear a little Vic's Vapour Rub under each nostril. Pop into a chemist today!

Does the colleague behind you have a seat too? If so, offer to let them sit together. That way you escape the smell and you look kind!

Eww, maybe try actiongirl1978 approach.
I'd hold my nose, ask him to move so I could get up, tell, sorry mate you stink and I'm about to vomit from the smell. Doesn't help that I'm pregnant. Then when he lets you out, tell him to move over to the window seat and sit next to the isle so you can breath the opposite direction.

I love that no matter what the situation, someone on MN will find a reason why the person is not at fault!

It's not so much that smelly man isn't at fault or that everyone should have to endure bad smells and personal hygiene is a bourgeois affectation or whatever -- of course it is unpleasant to be around and everybody ought to wash and it would be lovely if everything smelled nice all the time. However, getting worked up about it isn't going to help, and i think it's important to keep in mind in most situations that nobody usually goes around with the intention of upsetting others on purpose, and to try to just... Be a little more circumspect and patient. ESPECIALLY if you're pregnant and on a busy train and there's nothing to be done anyway: sitting there stewing on your annoyance is hardly going to help.

@Medea13 it's quite impossible to sit here and not stew when my nostrils are being assaulted by urine 🤣 I wish I could bed the type of person who never got annoyed etc - you're a much better than person than me!

Those suggesting you swap places with him so you get the aisle seat - he stinks of piss; why would you want to sit in the seat he’s just vacated??
Don’t sit in the seat after him!!

Not unreasonable. Getting washed daily takes a few minutes and is a social norm.

Putting an unwashed body into unwashed clothes is not acceptable for any fully functioning human.

I work with teenagers - some of them are smelly and I've had a few awkward conversations. Some go to bed in clothes to save time getting dressed on a morning. Disclaimer - some are smelly because they come from shit homes. Those conversations have been much more gentle and supportive. If young people aren't taught basic hygiene at home it isn't their fault if they smell

I overheard a conversation between smelly teen and none smelly teen...
Nst: mate you stink of piss a bit
St: fuck off, I get washed
Nst: it's cos you're not shaking properly. If piss dribbles onto your trousers it's going to stink after a couple of days. Just dab the end man
St: ah, right. Cheers bro

Oh, i do get annoyed! But i try not to. On the opposite end of the scent spectrum there was a woman at the gym last week who insisted on spritzing herself with some sort of abominabld lavender body oil IN THE SAUNA. I can't imagine why someone would do that and i felt very irritated...