To be irritated that friend keeps moaning about my salary

[Vanderlylecrybabygeek]

The last few times I have met up with a particular friend she has moaned about the fact that I earn more than her. She goes on about how qualified she is, how hard she works, the amount of overtime she does etc. I have never told her how much I earn (but she has told me what she earns). I do earn a bit more than her, but not a life changing amount. I feel like she looks down on my job, and can’t see that I also work hard. Aibu to be getting really irritated

How can she moan about how much you earn if she doesn't know how much it is and it's not much more? You must have told her you earn more than her, and made it sound good.

If you don't like her stop spending time with her

Here's a suggestion. Don't tell people how much you earn. Yea I know you didn't, but of course, you must have otherwise she wouldn't be aware of this.

It's public knowledge what a lot of people's salaries are (or at least band) especially if they work in the public sector.

Have you mentioned to your friend you'd rather not discuss money?

No, I never have told her my salary. But she may well have seen similar jobs advertised online to have an idea of the range. We have been friends since primary school, but this has only started over the last few months. in the past she has earned more than me; I don’t know if that’s the issue

Kaytee. I’ve just tried to change the subject each time, but you’re right; I think I just need to say that.

If you have never told her I guarantee her moaning is an attempt at fishing for information. Just shut her down "Moan about money all you like Mary but can you stop bringing my salary into please, you might not realise how often you do it but you do it enough for it to be annoying"

It's not your fault how much you earn. She should apply for a promotion or look for a better paid job. Maybe she moans too much at work? It's not all about hard work - you have to fit in with the team and be pleasant too.

Don't be friends with someone who looks down on you in any way, including your job.

Friendship is hard enough without bringing such low expectations to it.

tell her she is not a tree, she can get up and leave if she wants to. works for your meet up and her job

She is not your friend.

Just say you don't want to be talking about jobs and money. She sounds very jealous of you.If she persists then I would just leave her to it and get rid of her.

Tell her you find it disconcerting that she is always mentioning your salary, hurtful even and you don't know what to say in reply. Also point out that people make choices in life about what they do for a living, as she has, and you like your job (I hope you do). The probability is that she will progress and earn more in time.

Then say no more about it but let it sink in. She probably doesn't realise how inappropriate she is being but might be more sensitive after you've told her.

Moaning?? What's it to do with her?

Your salary belongs to you, I'd shut down the conversation and start making distance if she's becoming too repetitive

None of her business and she needs to quit this wage envy. As this is making her look bitter and jealous and totally not a good friend.

Opportunity to practice assertiveness.

Eg “You keep mentioning my salary and comparing. When you do that I feel uncomfortable. Please don’t”.