AIBU to sell something bought for me two years ago

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So having a clear out as too many clothes i don't wear. Put a jumper for sale on facebook and next thing my mother in law is telling me shes upset as she bought me it and it cost her a lot of money, and that if I need the cash she will give me it and will take the cardi back.

Was this massively offensive of me? I'm a primark girl and it's superdry so I don't have a clue of its worth but I've had it for two years. I've withdrawn it from sale and said I will give to one of her grand children which she seems happier with. So whats the cut off point with gifts?

I don't think it's about a cut off point.

It's more about not being 'in your face' about it...as in not selling it on FB when you know she'll see it cos she's on your friend list.

Whilst a gift becomes your property, I think it's wise to contact the giver before you decide to sell, especially if its someone close like your MIL.

Depends have you advertised it as brand new and unworn?

I wouldnt sell gifts where the giver can see. It does look ever so ungrateful.

I tend to give away things that have been given to me.

Super dry isn’t really very expensive
I could see her point if it was designed and worth hundreds but it probably cost £50 max
However, it’s possibly a bit tactless to advertise the fact that you don’t like it

gah I should have done the charity shop run. I didn't really think about her seeing it as I posted in some selling groups but I suppose they are not private. Lesson learned

You are selling a gift on FB? Good grief. I bet mil is very pissed off and I don't blame her.
I don't fancy your next gift from mil

It looks rude TBH if she's seen it.

It's gift

Fair enough return it or EBay it discretely, but don't advertise it where she can see it.

she told me after seeing 'I'd posted it that she paid £89 for it (!) I had it on for a fiver

Bath salts will be your next gift Op

No problem with selling stuff you don't want/need but a very tactless way to go about it!

I don't think you should sell it anywhere the gift giver is likely to see it!

And superdry is hardly designer, but still, more expensive than Primark. Not necessarily better quality mind pound for pound.

I would be very surprised if it cost £89 ( oddly specific amount), I buy dd lots of Superdry stuff and the jumpers are around the £30-50 mark. Second hand £5/10 would be reasonable
I suppose the cost doesnt matter though, it’s the thought

YABU. I gave a colleague some baby things a few years back. For free. She then put them on a fbook selling group! CF is no longer on my friends list

I think it's fine to sell or give away things you no longer want/ need. I wouldn't give a gift to someone and expect them to feel obliged to hold on to it for the rest of their lives just because it cost me money. If we kept every gift for all our lives we'd end up swamped in stuff. At least you're not just chucking it in the bin. The whole point of a gift is that it now belongs to that person. I don't get people that give a gift and expect people to be eternally grateful for the rest of their lives for it! If she's so offended easily she should perhaps give money. You've waited longer than my MIL, she's normally returning every Christmas present by new year

gave a colleague some baby things a few years back. For free. She then put them on a fbook selling group! CF is no longer on my friends list

That is just pure CF though!

Pamdoo

She's a bit like that in general so don't know why I was surprised! Proper entitled madam and CF. I sold my cot and changing table for £100 and then saw it listed for £150 a few months later saying it was "barely used"...umm, 3 babies had used it before I sold it!!! It was very very well used!

But that was a different person to the first CF colleague! They are everywhere

Honestly, after two years it wouldn't offend me if someone sold on something I'd given them. Might be a pissed off that they were selling it for a fiver though, that makes it look like they thought it was cheap to begin with.

My mum went on for years about how she wanted a Radley bag. We're not close but one year I decided to treat her. She then told me the next time she saw me that she'd sold it on ebay!!! I was fuming. She could have at least asked me if I had the receipt and exchanged it for a different one, instead she sold it for god knows how much less than I'd paid. After that I went back to buying her cheap gifts again!

As I've documented on here before I had a friend who ebayed my gifts constantly - like within days of receiving them so I began to take pleasure giving her hideous things which were very large and heavy so impractical to get rid of, far less sell. It gave me no end of amusement.

Flogging one cardi after two years is hardly a big deal. Your MIL over reacted, you weren't being remotely unreasonable.

Superdry is hugely expensive to me so its all relative! However I agree with posters here, sell if you want but you should have been far more discreet.

"Super dry isn’t really very expensive ."

Maybe not for some, but it's not somewhere I and many others can shop on a regular basis, thanks.

Agree with others, you run the risk of coming across as a proper old CF if you do stuff like this so blatantly OP.

Its a difficult one because it is yours to sell but a close friend was experiencing financial hardship and sold a top I'd given her for her birthday 3 weeks earlier. She also asked for a tent we owned which we gave her so she could have a holiday. I was offended and let the friendship slide.