Aibu about no message

[jenzlou]

Perfectly happy to be told I am being unreasonable. In fact I kind of hope I am being unreasonable.

Slight backstory is boyfriend has in past been disloyal while drunk. Also he is extremely loving when not drunk.

He went to a funeral. Not messaged me all day. I've needed to get hold of him for something important to me, also I've been wondering how he is as it's a sad day. I couldn't attend.
I finally managed to get through to him at ten in the evening and he was very very drunk.

Would you take it personal that he didn't think to pick up his phone, but could manage to get drunk. Or am I being a bitch?

Want to add that I've not had a go at him. I'm just feeling upset about it. I've had a rough time with my mental health lately which I've only just started to accept myself really. This could just be due to what's happened in the past and my , what's getting to be, ridiculous anxiety.

And I do need to get my anxiety in order. But how do I do this. Certain times of months it's bad. And I mean really bad, it's crippling.

Was the thing that was important to you something that needed interrupting his time at the funeral or with family and friends after?

CBT got my anxiety in check (first time it didn’t work though), I still get wobbles but I know how to get back on track now so they don’t go on for days/weeks etc

Not too important that it should disrupt a funeral service.

Important enough to be able to tell him during the wake.

I didn't tell him what the issue was. I just sent a message asking how everyone was and then one checking he was ok. And to us, especially him, just two messages would be completely out of the norm. Even in this circumstance.