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Been with DH for 5 years and have 2 DC’s. During my first pregnancy found out that he was hiding some things mainly regarding ex wife and him still having contact ( No DC’s together). What really got to me was the fact that he was doing it behind my back. Explained to him that I felt uncomfortable with them been in contact esp behind my back and he promised to cut ties and keep me in the loop about things in the future. Few months later found him on her social media pages. Again had a conversation and he said he felt like he just wanted to know how she was doing. We’d just had a baby so not sure how he could give a shit about her at such a stage in our lives. These plus various incidents of constantly hiding things from me have led me to lose all my confidence and feel generally shitty about myself. I’m constantly in a state of wondering if there is more to this than he is letting on or if I am just been paranoid. Sometimes I think maybe I’m overreacting and him having the odd convo here and there with his ex or looking her up is Normal? AIBU or is he?