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To think this is fine?

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Creeper8 · 11/09/2018 19:34

I have 3 kids in primary school, its a large school and has two entrances and two seperate building but both within the same grounds. I take my youngest to one bit, oldest to the seperate building and middle back to the other building and back out. It means walking round the entire school which takes some time and my son who I drop last is ending up being “late” due to it.

When you get to the school there are two entrances one for reception which my youngest is in and the main entrance which is where my sons class is next to.

would it be unreasonable to go into the reception bit and allow my son to walk by himself to the main entrace and into his class? (he is 6) I mentioned it to my sister but she said I should “run it by the school first” I think thats unneccesary and dont see how its any different from parents who drop their kids off in cars and send them to walk in themselves which im sure many do. Aibu?

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dementedpixie · 11/09/2018 19:43

Can your eldest son not make his way to his own class? What are the ages of the children?

daffodillament · 11/09/2018 19:45

This is a very much 'run it by the school first' situation !

Wishiwasa · 11/09/2018 19:49

Check with the school. Or is there a mum of one if you're son's friends who would meet you and walk him in for you?

ArtemisWeatherwax · 11/09/2018 19:51

Get there earlier, or take it in turns to drop DC off at different entrances.

I have spent many years devising a system for chosing which playground (KS1 or KS2) to wait in... every other day vs majority of children vs which DC was ready first vs which was least irritating etc. We had to pass each child their appropriate gate and not leave them in the playground by themselves or let them walk to the gate themselves.

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Creeper8 · 11/09/2018 19:53

no mum friends.. others are 7 and 4 the 7 yo has asd so can normally take some time to get into class hence adding to the lateness.

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OnASwissRoll · 11/09/2018 19:55

If you were going to allow one of your kids to take themselves into school, wouldn't it be the eldest?

apostropheuse · 11/09/2018 19:55

Why not just arrive at the school earlier so he isn't late?

caroloro · 11/09/2018 19:56

Maybe leave the child with the most needs, your eldest, until last?

SleepingStandingUp · 11/09/2018 19:57

So you drop 4 yo then 7 yo then 6 yo but 6 yo is right next to 4 yo?

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Creeper8 · 11/09/2018 20:00

no they are not right next to each other they are opposite ends of the building. Very hard to explain. I would have to pass 7 yo class to get to 6 yo if that makes sense. As I said 7 yo is asd so cant go alone and wouldnt change anything anyway due to the lay out. I genuinely didnt think it was unreasonable as walking him to school and just letting him enter the gate by himself? hes class is by the main entrance.

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dementedpixie · 11/09/2018 20:03

At our school we aren't even allowed into the playground never mind into the building. Do they need taking to the class?

SleepingStandingUp · 11/09/2018 20:14

Just ask school in case they have age limits. They know he's often late and they. Know why so they should want to help.
Alt could you meet a mom of 6 yo at gates and. Her walk them both in?

I got muddled with the layout from all the he's sorry.

Your idea seems reasonable is you trust 6 to go in and you can wait h he def goes

Eliza9917 · 11/09/2018 20:19

When I was at primary school (some) kids were just dropped at the playground gate and parents could go.

Don't they have a teacher on the gates so you can drop them and go? What do people that have to go on to work instead of fanny about like that do?

Sirzy · 11/09/2018 20:22

Talk to the school. I am sure your not the first parent to have kids in multiple classes!

OnASwissRoll · 11/09/2018 20:23

Think we need a diagram OP Wink

RabbitsAreTasty · 11/09/2018 20:25

I would try it tomorrow and see how it goes. Sounds perfectly reasonable to me. I did similar with my three, anything else resulted in someone being late.

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Creeper8 · 11/09/2018 20:26

I would love to be earlier but im already struggling getting all kids to school on time as a LP and one with asd. We get there just on time but by the time they are all dropped its classed as late. We live a fair distance from the school.

The done thing is to collect and drop children at their classes.

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dementedpixie · 11/09/2018 20:33

Just talk to the school then. They can't expect you to be in 3 places at the same time

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Creeper8 · 11/09/2018 20:42

*Rough diagram, reception closes 5 mins before main gate hence going there first and its the side we come from.

Ignore previos was for another thread my phone isbrroke

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Creeper8 · 11/09/2018 20:44

diagram

To think this is fine?
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dementedpixie · 11/09/2018 20:53

I'd direct the 6 year old in the correct entrance and then go to reception and then to the 7 year olds class

Grobagsforever · 11/09/2018 22:24

No need to run it by the school. It's not up to them, why do Mumsnet give schools such power.

Seems perfectly reasonable OP, most six year olds walk themselves from the gate.

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Creeper8 · 11/09/2018 23:36

Thats what im thinking, I dont want the schools permission as if its unsuitable I would rather just not do it. I dont really want to alert the school as I dont think its necessary.

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