I’m just looking for opinions as to whether I should cool this friendship or not so please bare with me.
Friend is the sort of person who gets very annoyed when she’s stressed. At the minute she has a lot on her plate with her dad being ill, her mum being a gaslight-y, money worries etc etc. She’ll text me whenever things are bogging her down and you can tell she’s upset. However. If I text her with my own issues, she will either not reply, vaguely answer me and turn it to her (I think because she’s not sure what to say) or say she’ll text back later but doesn’t. I too have a lot on my mind. Stuff I’d genuinely like to talk to her about but it’s gotten to the point now that I worry she’ll ignore me and I’ll feel like a tit so I delete what I was about to send, or if I’ve sent something I’ll regret it because then I’ll worry I’m putting on her.
Because of this I feel that I should cool the friendship, back off, keep stuff to myself and just let her talk to me when she needs to vent. Would that be unreasonable? I mean, I’m not trying to make out that she needs to pay me attention or such, she doesn’t owe me anything at the end of the day.
I really dont know what to do. I don’t want to push her away, I don’t want to lose her and I don’t want to ignore her. It is slightly awkward in that I give her child a lift to school everyday now and obviously, for the child’s sake, I don’t want to stop that.
Opinions welcome.