To not want any fuss on my birthday?

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It's my birthday in a week. For days I've been fielding enquiries about what I'm doing for it? The answer is nothing, I'm really not interested in it in the same way most of my friends and family seem to be. All of them seem to organise meals out, drinks, BBQs, afternoon tea etc for their own birthdays. As far as I'm concerned it's just another day but I'm being made to feel like I should be putting on some form of entertainment. If other people choose to celebrate their birthdays that's fine but I'm just not fussed 🙄

I hate focus put on me so I don’t think you’re BU. I also hate when I leave a job and expected to stand up in front of everyone and do a speech

YANBU. I'm not a fan of fuss for adult birthdays myself. If it suits you, fair enough, but if it doesn't you shouldn't be shamed for it. My bugbear is people who want to celebrate their birthday but they expect you to pay for it (with the possible exception of bring and share type events in someone's home).

Why do you feel like you should put on entertainment just because some passes the time of day asking what you're up to on your birthday?

So do you decline cards and presents too then?

No, I don't decline cards and presents! I just don't enjoy being the centre of attention so don't want to have a group celebration. It hasn't just been people passing the time of day asking what I'm doing either, one friend has been trying to talk me into hosting a get together, and I've had several texts asking what we are doing to celebrate. The fact is, I just want to go about my day as normal.

It’s my birthday tomorrow and I’ll be getting up to catch a 6:45 train to a meeting. I don’t do fuss for adult birthdays except maybe 21st, 75th and 90th.

We are off on holiday so we’ll have a meal at our stopover pre Shuttle but we’d have that anyway. One daughter came for lunch today but mainly because she wanted to talk wedding venues.
Told my husband not to get me anything as there’s nothing I need really. I suspect I’ll get a bottle of Jo Malone, which is nice.

I don't do them - haven’t wanted to celebrate for at least 25 years. I always asks for no presents or cards but no one listens. YANBU

I hate my birthday. I have a group of friends who make a huge fuss over their birthdays every year. There are big nights out and loads of presents. I go along to their and buy the fancy presents - but just want to go to the cinema wor somethigpng in mine. Don’t want presents,
. They make me feel rubbish about it every year. One year a friend even threw me a party and told everyone it wad because she felt sorry for me!! It was awful. She made it obvious it was a burden but she had to do it because I wouldn’t!! Bonkers

Why can’t people just respect others wishes!! We don’t all have to be the same.

I don’t like huge fuss either. Having a twin helps. We celebrate together! Some years it’s a coffee and cake in a town midway between where we live. If our birthday falls at the weekend, it tends to involve an overnight stay somewhere a bit further afield. However, even then it’s nothing fancy.

YANBU, I'd prefer not to acknowledge my birthday (at all, no cards, gifts, parties) but people seem to find it strange. Birthdays just aren't a big deal to some people.

YANBU I don't get it either. My friends have surprised me with meals out - then because I didn't know I was going out ended up being tagged in pics on fbook looking like crap. They text each other trying to organise things for me and working out what they can do for my bday.

I don't want to celebrate it. But they can't seem to understand that. They are just trying to be nice and show they care but I just don't want to!!