Sleepover on school nights?

[Funkyslippers]

My DD2 (9) had a sleepover at her friend's house last week on a school night. I was a bit unsure but was put on the spot and DD was desperate to go (she was already there on a playdate). DD's friend's mum is very laid back and I've a feeling she may suggest doing it again.

I don't have a problem with it as such, the girls were apparently very well behaved and got to sleep at a sensible time, but my DD1 was horrified that I would let her go.

Is there some unwritten rule that says thy must not allow a sleepover on a school night?!

I suppose if they go to sleep then it's OK but mine never sleep on a 'sleep' over so it'd be a no here.

I never used to allow it. But none of DD's friends ever asked her to sleepovers during the school week, as I think we were all of the same opinion!

My dcs do but I'm a bit laid back about bedtimes.
If it takes me more than one attempt to get them up in the mornings they'll be sent up to bed an hour earlier because they need the sleep.
They soon regulate their own sleep.

Mine are younger (and have only ever slept out at Granny's or SIL) but it would be a no from me.

Maybe as a one off on a Thursday before halfterm I would make an exception but as a rule then nope.

My dd and her bestie did it all the time. I never worried much as her friend’s mother was a teacher at their very strict Catholic school.
When they were me, I did homework, tea, playtime, showers and bed.
They were well behaved and excellent students. If things had got out of hand, I would have sent friend home.(never happened)

I'd be ok with it on the proviso that they got enough sleep.

DS1 often has friends over and the last time they camped out for two nights in the garden. The first night they were awake til gone 4am, the second night they lasted til about 9pm before crashing. The 4am jinks wouldn't fly on a school night, though.

We have done it bit only when it was because the child's parents needed childcare. We always made it clear that bedtime was x o'clock and because it was a school nigjt no talking after lights out.

That would be an outright no-no here.
There's plenty of opportunity at weekends and during holidays.

“Put on the spot?” by whom?

My kids are well trained that I never say yes to last minute invitations.

Just because they ask doesn’t mean you have to say yes.

But no, I wouldn’t agree to a midweek sleepover apart from to help a friend out in an emergency. They’ll never sleep as well.

Put on the spot by DD and her friend. I couldn't really think of a reason to say no as they are both very well behaved and as they'd had lots of sleepovers in the past the 'novelty' has sort of worn off and I knew they wouldn't be up till all hours chatting and giggling

I'd only do midweek sleepovers in an emergency