AIBU to say that this is my home and I’ll use my spare room however I want?

[Jujujuile]

I am a homeowner with two nice ensure spare rooms, that I like to make work for me when I haven’t got my family and friends staying.

Airbnb gives me that no commitment option, so I meet lovely people from around the world and make good money - when it suits me.

I’ve got a neighbour trying to get me to take her student neice for this year, and another wanting me to take her offspring who is splitting with her partner.

I don’t want fucking lodgers and the responsibilities that go with them. I do what I am supposed to, and have electrical safety certificate and gas safety certificates, and pay the appropriate council tax.

Today I’ve been called selfish and greedy by one of these neighbors who asked why I live in a four bedroomed house on my own. Answer is because I work hard, so I can.

AIBU?

Why is it up to you to fix their families’ problems? I bet if you’d have said yes they’d also have expected ‘mates rates’. Tell them to house their own family - not your responsibility.

Lodgers have very few rights. It should be easy to evict them. Much easier than tenants.

You are most certainly not being unreasonable. Tell them to bugger off and to have their family stay with them.

There is only one piece of advise you need to follow: Stop talking to these people. Problem solved.

Tell them that your air bnb guests are actually swingers and you need all of the rooms for orgies.
Or just no.

And it’s because it can be so hard to evict lodgers if they misbehave. A friend ended up going to court to evict a lodger, who didn’t want to go. All because he needed the room back for his son

Its really easy to evict lodgers. You can basically just change the locks, they have almost no rights at all. Certainly no court needed.

Why would you let someone speak to you like that?

If they say something similar again, stare at them and ask them to repeat themselves. And again and again, until they apologise or slink off. How rude and offensive.

And I thought I had a nosy neighbour. The sheer cheek of some people is extraordinary. Do you generally chat about who you have staying etc? If you do, knock that right on the head.

Ask them how they'd feel if you demanded the use of their kitchen or bathroom for your relatives and then moaned at them if they didn't want to agree.

Of course YANBU! It's your house! Tell the neighbours to bugger off.

There is a massive difference between the odd airbnb weekend and having a permanent house guest be it tenant or lodger.

Its an odd reaction from the neighbour though who I wouldn't be surprised if they had already promised your rooms and now realise they have to back track so reacted rudely.

Tell them they are welcome to book the room through air bnb if they want it.

Though I can't believe that anyone who wanted a huge favour from you would speak to you in that way to your face at least.

Tell them to write a detailed report of their complaint onto a sheet of paper, fold it neatly and then shove it up their bum.

Really, they are ridiculous.

It is entirely up to you who you have in your house, and I can say from experience that it is generally better NOT to entertain relatives of people you know, as they seem to be far worse behaved than people you don't know from Adam.

Plus, you'd end up with said neighbours on your doorstep at all hours because of their relative living there - no!

I'm not surprised they think you're being selfish - because I expect they don't want their own relative living with them either through selfishness, so they're just measuring you by their own actions.

I reckon it's the mum of the soon-to-be-separated DD who is calling you names, personally. She probably doesn't want to deal with the drama in her own home.

YANBU at all though!

Bloody hell OP, I'd be very unimpressed indeed if my neighbours thought they had any right at all to suggest what I did with my spare rooms, and even less impressed if they felt they were in any way able to judge me for my decisions. I wouldn't be giving either of them time of day from now on!

Hahaha nope. YANBU.

Until recently I lived in a massive 5 bed house all on my own - my elderly father has just moved into an annexe in the grounds (his choice - he wanted to retain some independence). I absolutely love it and love having lots of room for friends to stay. I'm so selfish I don't even want to share with air bnb.
I barely know my neighbours let alone have any conversation with them about my living arrangements, but then I'm a grumpy old bag who tends not to like people.

I have had a few comments over the years by random people who, on hearing where I live, make some comments along the lines of how it would be better if I moved to something smaller a nice young family could have my house instead. They tend to get told to fuck off.

Tell them you are part of a religious cult. You leave these rooms empty for other cult followers to come worship with you.
Unfortunately you cult doesnt allow non believers under your roof as you must use these rooms for those who have been purified in your holy pool located in a secret location.

Or a sex dungeon.
Or tell them you have a lodger named fred the nudist.
Or...become a nudist.

(Your neighbours are absolute twats btw)

Nobody has wheeled out thatmumsnet favourite yet.

No.

No is a complete sentence

Who do they think they are?

Laugh in their faces.

I had a neighbour like that. We lived in identical houses. She had husband, 2 kids and three foreign language students in her house. I lived on my own after my divorce.

"Why do you need all those rooms? Why does a single person like you need all that space?"

Every fucking time I saw her.

She had issues.

Tell them to get to fuck.

You just know they'll have said "oh, my lovely neighbour juju has a spare room, I'm sure you could stay with her" and now they're embarrassed they've got to go back and admit they were being a CF and had no right to offer someone else's home.

bakingdemon I agree, bet they've promised OP's rooms as a solution before even talking to her.