To want my friend to leave

[MardyArabella]

I probably am being unreasonable but I feel so ill and all I want to do is crawl up in my bed in my house and go to sleep by myself.

My friend is visiting me from Canada. I’ve been off work on annual leave the past two weeks but was back at work on Monday. Friend has been here since the 24th. I told her when she was arranging things I’d only be able to take two weeks off but she wanted to stay an extra week and just explore a bit of the uk by herself when I was back at work.

However she’s now just spending every day at my house in bed, doing nothing with her day. I came home yesterday and she hadn’t moved since I’d left in the morning. I’ve felt unwell the past two days and my manager has told me To go home but I don’t even feel I can be unwell whilst she’s there. Am I being unreasonable in expecting her to actually go out and do stuff in her last week? Is the grumpiness or feeling like my head exploding getting too much. Am I just sick of sharing my space after 3 weeks. I’m probably being unreasonable I just needed to rant and vent.

Yanbu. that would drive me insane it's very well spending the two weeks together, but when your not well it's the last thing you want to be a host/ or have someone around you who irritates you now.

Your friend has stayed too long. This would irritate me too.

I’d have been asking her to get a hotel for a week or two, if she wanted to be here for longer before she invited herself to your house for 3 weeks, that’s far too long.

I get antsy if a friend stays over and doesn’t want to go out or leave relatively early the next day, I’m not a great lover of sharing space.

procrastinating I think I’d feel less grumpy if she was going out each day and doing stuff. But if she’s just sitting in my house I’m thinking why is she even heee another week? Why didn’t she just get a flight for Sunday???

Nothing worse than dragging yourself to work when you’re feeling under the weather and leaving someone in your house to have a lie in.

3 weeks is a long time!

Say you're ill, need to rest and hole up in your bedroom with a cup of tea and netflix.

Does she have the same thing you have and that’s why she’s moping around? Just ask her what’s up and why she’s not exploring the city like she planned but staying at your home all day? She may say she doesn’t feel well. Or she’s tired. Or she’s all touiristed our. Whatever she says, you reply... look, I loved having you here but I’m ill now and I need my home back to
Myself. If you want to make yourself scarce all day and can leave by 9 and come back at 7, then I can probably manage sharing for the 3rd week. But you staying here all day while just isn’t sustainable, so you will either need to rebook your flight or find an air b n b