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A question for cat lovers and owners

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toomuchtooold · 10/09/2018 20:49

Don't know if you can make it out but someone is sat at my terrace door miaowing. He's been hanging about since about 5pm. He belongs to the neighbour but she appears to be away - house is in darkness. He can get into her house through a catflap though so it's not like he's homeless.

If he was your cat would you want me to do something for him or should I ignore him? (He's still sat there. Too cute to ignore, although at least he only miaows when he thinks I'm looking!)

A question for cat lovers and owners
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ItsAllAJoke · 10/09/2018 20:50

He's looking for a lap to cuddle on.

OrangeKettle · 10/09/2018 20:51

He's bored, lonely or hungry. My cat does this when I go away!
I'd let him in for cuddles but that's probably not the right thing!

Sparklingbrook · 10/09/2018 20:51

I would get him in and give him a fuss. Perhaps he's just a bit lonely.

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toomuchtooold · 10/09/2018 20:52

I'm allergic to cats so he's getting no cuddles from me. I do love the buggers though.

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cloudyweewee · 10/09/2018 20:54

Oh what a cute little face! My neighbour's cat often jumps through our window and settles down on my lap for an ear tickle and bit of fuss. Let him for some fuss. Although be warned: he'll be forever pressing his little face against the window and looking forlorn.

Sparklingbrook · 10/09/2018 20:55

Oh. Well if you have an allergy there's not much you can do for him. Sad

lookthere123 · 10/09/2018 21:02

I would let him in Definitely!
Look at his face!

lljkk · 10/09/2018 21:13

Are you sure his flap isn't locked, meaning he can't get in?

I could imagine letting him in & even feeding him (a bowl placed by his own catflap).

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toomuchtooold · 10/09/2018 21:17

We did go out and scritch his ears but we've only encouraged him. He's back to miaowing again Sad

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purplelila2 · 10/09/2018 21:21

please let him in

MrsTommyBanks · 10/09/2018 21:24

He's lonely Sad let him in. I only say that as your neighbours away BTW.

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toomuchtooold · 10/09/2018 21:27

I can't let him in, I have asthma. I'm all right if I pet them and then wash my hands but if he comes in the house I'll be wheezing for ages. Do you think a blanket or something out outside would do him any good?

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dramaattheschoolgate · 10/09/2018 21:28

let him in - really?

My cat would beg cuddles from anyone. He has a catflap and a comfy bed and food, and gets cuddled to death when we're home. If we were out for one evening, he would be fine.

I would prefer you to leave him alone, he is just trying it on!

Ceeeeeelia · 10/09/2018 21:36

Really, really don't let him in.

Cats are fine outside. Yes he might look bored and lonely, but a) cats are master manipulators and d) he belongs to someone else!

Look at the number of 'my neighbour stole my cat' threads and you'll see how irritating it is for the owners.

User246 · 10/09/2018 21:36

I'd prefer my cat to be left.

We have a neighbour who watches feeds and cuddles my cat and gets worried if cat doesn't come back.
Then we get home and have to deal with cat not eating because someone else has been feeding her (not neighbour).

Seeingadistance · 10/09/2018 21:53

How old is your neighbour?

I ask, because if the neighbour is elderly or frail, and this is unusual, I'd be worried that they might have had a fall.

Zippitydoodar · 10/09/2018 21:56

That face Smile

AccidentallyRunToWindsor · 10/09/2018 21:59

I'm allergic to cats, and asthmatic. Currently have all 3 of my furry wankers sat on me- you build a tolerance after a while!

But yes, if you are sure he can get into the house and that your neighbour is just out and not ill in the house or something leave him be. If he's still making a fuss tomorrow then maybe a knock on the door to check all is ok is in order.

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toomuchtooold · 10/09/2018 22:09

The neighbour is OK - I spoke to our other neighbour, it was her who told me she was away. But that's a good call. IDK whether maybe he's been left food but just wants a cuddle. He's never usually very cuddly!

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Dollymixture22 · 10/09/2018 22:10

If h can get into his own house through the cat flap then he’s fin - just looking for attention.

There are lots of posts on here about neighbours feeding cats that are on special diets or letting cats into their houses against the owners wishes. So best to give him a tickle under the chin then leave him be.

Keep an eye on neighbours house though, I have a mental picture of her slumped against he cat flap😾

AccidentallyRunToWindsor · 10/09/2018 22:11

Cats are dreadful drama queens, a few weeks back mine got fed 4 times in one morning by insisting to all of us that they were starving and hadn't been fed yet. Lying little shites.

Seeingadistance · 10/09/2018 22:18

I'm glad to hear the neighbour's ok, and not lying, as pp said, slumped against the cat flap! Since I posted I've realised I know of 4 women who had some kind of accident and their neighbours realised something was wrong when they saw their dogs behaving unusually.

That was dogs though. A cat in those circumstances would simply look for a new slave!

Your neighbour's cat is probably just looking for some company and food.

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toomuchtooold · 11/09/2018 05:01

He's definitely out of his routine - the wee bugger returned from his nighttime carousing and miaowed at my window at 1am and 3am. That I know of. Thanks chap. I'm fully expecting to pull the curtain back and see the wee face peering in Grin

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CutesyUserName · 11/09/2018 09:59

Are you sure he can actually get into his cat flap? If it's a magnetic type, he may have lost his magnet (one of our concerns with our cats).

Aprilsinparis · 11/09/2018 10:04

Let him in, he probably only wants company and a cuddle.

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