To ask for tips on how to improve my self esteem

[Bumbledop]

Following on from a post that I made a few weeks ago I wondered if anybody could give me some tips on how to improve self esteem. What has worked for you?

I would like to lose some weight and I’m having my hair done on Wednesday. I’m starting to socialise more with friends and that is good for me.

What else could I try??

Wearing a bit of flattering, natural looking makeup would make you feel and look better I think, and it will pair wonderfully with your smart new hairstyle.

Also, I believe very strongly that the condition of your home very much effects your outlook and mental health. When your home is clean and tidy you just feel better. It's so nice to wake up and come home to an environment that isn't a cluttered, messy disaster.

Mindfulness meditation, yoga, exercise, walking in the woods, good diet, living simply.

Listen to upbeat music - lifts your mood
( I dance in my living room behind my curtain's) it's great - lifts your mood and you get fitter - win win

Try reading 'The Power of Now'.

Good luck

When I was a teenager I remember hearing or reading somewhere that if you lacked confidence or self esteem then you should think about what a confident person would do and then match that behaviour. After a while it's like a self fulfilling action and you become more confident. I think it's good advice.

Walk the walk and talk the talk. Hopefully some of it will stick.

Thank you everyone.

Write down alll the stuff you like about yourself - even if it’s just little things like ‘I have nice hair’, ‘I am good at making a roast dinner’.
Also write down all your achievements, academic, professional, and personal/social ones too ‘I have great friendships with X and Y’.
Read through them when you’re having a bad feeling about yourself and keep adding to them. When people compliment you, write those down too and keep them, even if it’s just a ‘I like your skirt’.

Mind run free courses on things like self esteem, asertiveness, writing/art,/food for increasing well being. They may be of some help.

Google "mind recovery and wellbeing and your town".

1. Make sure you are always well presented. You don’t have to be the most expensively dressed person, but always have good hygiene (clean hair and nails, makeup - even if it’s light to just cover your worst flaws!), have clean, well cared for clothes, shoes and handbag. Have some jewelers, no need to overload.

2. Exercise - something cardio that raises your heart rate and some weights to tone. You’ll be amazed at how the endorphins will make you feel like a million dollars after 2-3 sessions.

3. Mindfullness - I do yoga with some meditation at the end, and also use the Headspace app. It doesn’t help self esteem exactly, but it stops bad things bothering me, which means my self esteem has less chance of taking a hit.

4. Spend time with people who love me. Whether it is sister who I can love and laugh with, nieces/nephews who think the world of me, old friends who have been there so long their love is unconditional or parents - make sure there is I judge mental love there and bask in it.

5. Spending time outdoors. For me time in the ocean or in the hinterlands is refreshing for my soul. I know other people say bush walks etc....whatever works for you, but get outside and ground yourself.

6. Complete some tasks. Whether it’s a challenging work task, or decluttering a room, finishing a craft project or passing a music exam, doing these things makes me have a sense of achievement and self esteem.

Those are my tips for self esteem! I think it’s not just one thing....all of them knit together to mean if one takes a hit, the others will buoy you up.

PS - reading Gretchen Rubin’s book The Happiness Project is good. Whilst she talks about Happiness, some of the things she mentions will also help with self esteem.

Oy vey! The typos in my post! Too many to correct, I am blaming the phone and will call it done.