Would you/have you put off TTC for a future holiday/event?

[Alibelle]

Recently got married and our original plan was to wait to TTC until late 2019 due to a long haul family trip (11hr flight) planned for late 2019. In reality, both of us would love to start TTC right away (DH in his 30s and although I’m only in my 20s I have endometriosis and have been warned I may have fertility problems). If I were lucky enough to fall pregnant soon, we would potentially have a 3/4 month old baby to take along with us on our trip. WWYD? Part of me things it’s silly of us to start trying at this time, but the thought of waiting a year is painful

Well obviously there'd be a chance you'd have to cancel the trip if you have a 2 week old baby or were 9 months pregnant so I guess it depends on whether you're prepared to do that.

I wouldn't wait. I wouldn't want to waste my window of opportunity or even to delay having a baby for a holiday.

I would probably delay if the trip was important as chances are you’ll be heavily pregnant.

It took us 3.5 years to conceive and I didn't even know I had fertility issues when we started. You don't know how long it will take you and you have endometriosis to consider. Having said that it took 2 cycles to conceive our 2nd.

Personally I couldn't wait another year to start trying if I felt ready to. It's just a holiday. You could still go, either way or there will be plenty of other holidays in the future.

As someone who had fertility problems I wouldn’t advise putting off TTC for anything. Start today! A holiday/party can be rearranged or cancelled. Good luck!

Would you be happy to go with a young baby?
If so, start trying now and then if you were unsuccessful perhaps stop for a few months so that you wouldn't be travelling with a newborn or in late pregnancy, and then start again when it would work out you were a max of 4/5 months pregnant.

Yes there are options as although the trip is planned, we can’t book the flights this far in advance. I could potentially not go (but DH would have to) or, I could take baby with me if it was born in time for passport etc.

What about just delaying a few months. You don't have to wait a whole year.

Check the cut off for the airline (may be around 6 months) and work out from your return date that far back - if you are due back at the end of December, then start trying from June.

If you haven't booked yet and are willing to not go, then just start trying. You may take a long time and end up regretting delaying for so long at the start.

Yes we delayed TTC to travel half way round the world! We knew we wouldn't get the chance again. And I then conceived the month that we returned having waited a year. If the holiday means a lot to you then for a sake of a few months I would wait. But it is only your decision!

Don't wait. If you end up needing referrals for fertility treatment you'll regret it. And if you have problems conceiving number one and want a second child too...
There will always be something in the medium term future that is more convenient without a baby, because a baby is inherently inconvenient. But because it's a baby, you work around it and family especially will understand (unless they are odd).
My dd's first passport took 10 days from request to delivery so you can potentially fly quite soon after the birth.

On another note- be careful it’s not a destination with the Zika virus as it would be risky to go when pregnant
Or also , that would mean delaying TTC even longer!

Unless it is a zika zone I think you are being unreasonable. For a lot of people ttc and pregnancy happens very quickly and for others it doesn’t. I’d ttc now and then reassess when it is time to book flights etc.

It took me 5 years to successfully conceive with no pre-warned problems so in my opinion I'd start as soon as possible. Good luck op x

Are you keen to try only because you fear it will take some time? If you are happy with the idea that you could fall pregnant on first try then thats fine. (I have one tube and despite all the drs words had no problem conceiving, you just do not know).

It depends what this trip is. If it's an amazing once in a lifetime trip that you are both looking forward to and won't easily do again once you have children, then yes, I'd wait and start TTC either while away or when you return. If it's to visit family or attend a wedding and you go to this place all the time and it's not a once in a lifetime trip, then I'd just get on with it if you feel ready. Flying with a small baby or while pregnant is no big deal (assuming you can get passports and vaccinations for baby in time). You'll manage fine. But spending time together as a couple is a pretty big deal and you won't get to travel so far away again alone in a very, very long time. If that matters to you, then I'd prioritise that and enjoy it while you still can.

My dh and I travelled around India and Sri Lanka before we started TTC. We planned the trip specifically so we could TTC straight away when we got home as we wanted to have one last big trip together. It was amazing and absolutely worth the wait. It's made the stresses of having small children much more manageable as we left our old lives not feeling like we missed out on doing anything we wanted to do together before we became parents. I definitely would have regretted not doing that now that we don't have that sort of freedom. We've travelled long haul with our dc, but it's infinitely more difficult and no where near as fun. We were in our early to late 30s by the time we had ours, so not spring chickens and still very much worth the wait for us. But totally depends on the situation I think.

I put it off by about 6 months when I was asked to be a bridesmaid. I got pregnant within six weeks of coming off the pill, though.