To have potty trained 4 children by age 2.5 but

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...be defeated by the fifth?

She’s the most articulate and wilful. Three I had a pleasant chat with and the potty excited them, one with some SEN I used pictures cards and it’s a long road but some training by 2.5. This one just say ‘no’. She tells me ‘I poo in nappies’, ‘I don’t like potties’ and literally walks around the house screaming until she gets a nappy. And she is bloody persistent too. Or she eventually wees somewhere deliberately unreasonable.

Please tell me it’s not just me facing this? She’s a tiny wilful dictator that gives no shits, she knew the alphabet and counted to twenty at two.... it’s certainly not comprehension.

I was filling a bit smug super-mum like after the first four 🤯

Maybe she is just not ready, leave it for a bit. All kids are different.

She might be intellectually but not emotionally ready for the change - leave the ball in her court - when she's ready she can choose some big girl pants until then she can use nappies. Apart from being able to say "I potty trained 5 kids by 2.5" what's the point in pushing it?

Sorry,more detail this one is over three. More making the pint I’d found it a breeze. The older ones preschool wouldn’t have allowed a non-trained 3 yr old

Can you line a potty with a nappy.
She feels she's pooing in a nappy while getting used to sitting on the pot

Mines 2y 8 months and he knows what a potty is for, he knows when he's pooing and weeing (because he tells me) but when I ask if he wants to do it on the potty or toilet and he says no "I do it in my nappy" so on goes the nappy. He'll do it in his own time.

Sounds like you've got a feisty one on your hands!

Yeah same here. 3.6, used a potty a few times, but prefers the garden or piles of clean washing. Cries for a nappy, puts pull ups on himself. He gets a mini kinder bar whenever he goes in the potty. Today he peed on his sisters bedroom floor then helped himself to a kinder bar. Stubborn little monkey. My oldest 2 were also potty trained by 2.5
No advice, but I sympathise.

I’ve had ‘no mummy. Like cosy nappy thank you’

Not prepared to take on this battle. Will revisit later.

Ds1 no major issues training - ds2 on the other hand was nearly 4 before I managed to get an actual pair of pants on him. Absolute total nightmare so no you arent alone!

Oh and will go through the pile of nappies until a suitably pleasing illustration is found.

Ah well that's a shame dd because big girls who use the potty get to......
Ds was coerced with breakfast at Morrison's cafe like his dm /df do on a Tuesday!!
Fave TV show paused while he least tried, showed him a 'poo strain face!!' - starts the poo ime!!
Had potty training mastered in less than a week!

she knew the alphabet and counted to twenty at two.... it’s certainly not comprehension.

That doesn't show comprehension. It shows memorisation. Quite different.

Also, you didn't train them. They were ready. This one isn't.

Don't try to coach her if she's not ready or wants to defy you. Look for actual signs that she's ready first, then make it seem like it's her idea.

Ds2 my third was like this he was 4!!! Before we got him trained he was really stubborn about it. He would just pee wherever he was. In the end it took the worlds most expensive toilet seat and a small battle of wills and he did it. He had sporadic accidents at night for another couple of years but rare and only a handful of times. He just didn’t like doing anything that took a bit of effort from him if he didn’t find it easy first time he just didn’t bother.

3.6 DS will NOT use a potty or toilet without bribery. He's had issues with pooing all his life but he can now control it if he wants to - but he just doesn't want to! I've given up for a while and will send him to nursery in a nappy tomorrow.

Get her a seat for the loo, so she can "go" on her "throne".

Does you child with SEN have ASD?

My daughter who has just turned 4 still isn’t potty trained and not through lack of trying, her gran who has helped potty train 5 children has even thrown in the towel. She literally screams if I put her on a potty or the toilet. It sounds like I am abusing her. She does have speech delay and is so stubborn.
I was asked to stop trying my the Nursery as she stopped talking full stop as a form of protest.
She will only go to the toilet in pull ups. She will happily wear knickers now but then tell me when she wants to go.
Bribery has not work, rewards no and I’m at my wits end with tbh.

My 4 year old point blank refuses to use the potty/toilet. Its really annoying me, we tried so hard during the 6 weeks and still nothing. He will do the odd wee or poo but seems to prefer just doing it wherever he is at the time.

My bloody 5.5 year old has been trained for ages and seems to be going backwards now. Had 6 'accidents' in the past week, including 2 at school.

Neither have SEN as far as I am aware.

Potty/toilet training is the bane of my life.

First off I would stop buying the nice nappies. Buy the cheapest, most uncomfortable, plain white nappies. One less thing to battle if the nappy suddenly becomes boring and uncomfortable.

I would just back off and tell her to let you know when she is ready. Every so often ask her are you ready yet but no pressure. I have an ‘independent’ daughter and it’s no use pushing something she is not ready for, better to hand back control to her and let her think it’s all come from her. I have a son who we trained too early and we are still suffering the consequences at 6. Don’t push it and good luck

You REALLY need to stop fighting her. She is so little still. Let her poop in nappies. Act as though you are happy about it. She just needs to adjust on her own time.

I wouldn't push it. My dd was 3 and half before she learnt. She's bright, knows numbers etc but she just wasn't interested. I kept the potty around, one day she just asked for knickers. Had 1 accident that day and has been dry since. No point making a battle out of it. You get no awards for how quickly they become potty trained.

What you need to do is say to her "If you wee/poo on the potty then you get a chocolate button. However, if you wee or poo in your pants or on the floor then Mummy gets to eat the chocolate button as she had to clean up the mess." You then eat the chocolate button in front of her and stand firm in the face of the inevitable tantrum. Take back control, I reckon it will take 2 days for her to realise you are serious and then she will be good as gold. Good luck

I reckon they do it when they’re ready. She’ll soon decide it’s not very pleasant to have a great big poo in in her undies!
My youngest stood at the top of the stairs waving a sodden nappy stating “I not wear stinky nappy!”