What do your kids do for themselves?

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DD is almost 10 and I am beginning to realise how much I do for her! She is also autistic so anything new she struggles with.
What can your similar aged kids do?

So far she manages:

Bathes independently.
Brushes teeth.
Gets dressed
Tidies room etc
Brushes hair.
Gets own breakfast
Loads washing machine
Helps hang washing out
Polishes

Things I'd like her to achieve:

Wash own hair
Tie own hair up
Make an easy meal
Sort own laundry into machine.

We're currently on holiday and I feel I'm doing everything from applying sunscreen to washing hair etc.

My youngest is 3 and eldest 13
Excluding the 3 year old they all take care of their own personal hygiene including cutting nails etc and putting hair up
They all sort/wash/dry their own clothes
Responsible for their own school equipment and books
The two eldest cook simple meals
Everyone helps with chores

Dd 10 does about the same as yours except polishing. She also puts her washing away and washes her own hair.
She makes toast, sandwiches and brews but not meals.

Sounds like she is doing fine. Bit by bit she will take on more tasks. A lot of teens m8ght not be doing as much as her re washing machine etc.

My DDs are 11 & 8.

I’ve never asked them to do any laundry, it’s never occurred to me as I do it whilst they’re at school.

However they both
put their packed lunches up
wash/dry up
Tidy their rooms & make their beds (youngest still needs helping changing duvet cover)
Shower & Wash their hair
Apply sun screen (although I do check)

Eldest is currently ironing her school shirts.

They can polish & vac too.

I dry their hair for them & have to constantly remind them to keep their rooms tidy.

It sounds like she does more than most 10 year olds!

Mine washes her hair but I finish it off by rinsing (very long thick hair). She does tie it up herself sometimes but it's not great so I often do it if I can.

I need to get dd more involved in food prep. Her coordination with a knife is terrifying though.

Mine, also nearly 10, probably doesnt do enough.
She showers, washes hair, brushes teeth on own, but would rarely do any of those if I didn't say 'please wash your hair' etc
I do her hair, she can't even do a pony tail on herself.
She tidies own room, takes own dishes away, puts own (laundered by me)clothes away, gets own drinks.
Does almost nothing apart from that.
I'm aware I need to step it up, but she does so many sports and works so hard at school, I'd feel bad to make her do more chores even though it'd be good for her.

My dd was not quite independent until secondary school. As soon as she started secondary school she got very interested in hair care and how she appears, so started her personal care routine without any prompts from us. Bath and hair wash doesn't need any input from us and she does her own hair quite elaborate. This only started at 11-12 year old, though.
Again, she started going to the libraries (one is a reasonable distance-bus ride away and another one a 15 minute walk away) on her own to borrow books etc (a busy London borough). She wasn't doing any of these when she was at primary.

Now she's just turned 13, she goes to the nearest shopping centre by bus to do her shopping for school stationery supplies.
She can make toast, omelette, tea and coffee. But not a full-blown meal. I'm not a kitchen-friendly person myself, I dont like cooking and i didn't teach her how to cook either. Like me, she's not into cooking. It's my mistake not to give her the joy of cooking-baking.

She definitely needs to be prompted to load the washing machine etc. She puts out the rubbish bag when it's not heavy but she moans a lot as she hates it.
In fact she needs prompting for cleaning her room and all chores really.
She became lot more competent in everything, as soon as she started secondary school really. It's unbelievable difference in competence from one stage of her life (primary school) to the next.

Thank you for your replies!

I can relax a bit now, she's my only child so I often worry if she's at the same level as her peers etc.