To think the death of a cat is not the same a parent

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My friend now empathises with me over the loss of my parents because their dog sadly died.

They are bereft, devasted and unable to function properly and now understand how I felts when my parents passed away

It’s not the same and insulting to compare the two things

9amtrain I am so sorry for your loss and I cannot believe anyone would make that comparison. I loved my cat but how I felt about him could never compare to the love I have for my nephew or my own children.

Bloody hell. Everyone experiences grief differently. It’s not a competition.

Having experienced the loss of my mum and my cat, I see where they’re coming from. Both were excruciating. I wouldn’t say either hurt any less than the other, though the former has had longer term ramifications. Yet I’m 14 years on from the cat and 8 from my mum and they still both appear in my dreams so I guess love is love and loss is loss.

Most people are trying to clumsily empathise by relating to their own experience, not compare exactly like for like.

It's not a competition, and there's no hierarchy of deaths. It's cruel to judge someone who reacts differently to you, for something so very personal.

Grief isn’t the same for everyone. You can’t judge what someone else feels. That doesn’t mean it wasn’t a very insensitive thing to say.

Sorry for your loss.

Yeah, the EXACT same subject was posted last week!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3352501-Colleague-compares-pet-death-to-relative?pg=6

A woman had lost her mother, and a colleague said she empathised because her pet died recently.

Obviously losing a parent is not the same a losing a pet. Losing a parent is far worse... (For most people!)

Sorry for your loss.

... Didn't you post this a week or so ago? Either that or you need to be friends with this other person who had the same thing happen