To want to do this to drivers who catcall my underage daughter

[meikyo]

DD came home yesterday upset after being catcalled from at least 3 or 4 different vehicles in a ten minute period during her walk home from her voluntary work. I would so love to tell her to photograph their vehicles in future and then I would put their registrations on our local community facebook page so that these sexist perverts are publicly named and shamed. Moreover, their partners/families would know what these idiots are getting up to. ...In reality I wouldn't actually do this as I'd be worried about repercussions for us. Poor DD had to duck down a side street away from the main road as she was so fed up. She's 15 and this has been going on for a few months now, sometimes even when I am out walking with her.

Don't waste time thinking about those pigs. What you need to be thinking about is how to empower your daughter and teaching her how to keep herself safe. It might not have been such a great idea for her to duck down a side road alone from the main one, especially if that made her more vulnerable. Perhaps she should have taken out her phone to take a pic of their car. Perhaps she needs to call the police if someone is being particularly aggressive. If a vehicle pulls up next to her, she needs to know that she should immediately turn around an go in the opposite direction to distance herself. If she is scared, let her know it's alright to yell or scream for help. Embarrassment be damned. You can't change other people, but you can give your child the tools she will need throughout her entire life.

I used to get this. I used to get it directly to my face from bus drivers in my school uniform too. I think pulling your phone out and filming may be confrontational (though i was 14 before mobile phones were a thing) - I once took an A4 folded piece of paper and wrote I AM 14 on it and would hold it up when on the street if someone shouted something at me. Didn’t stop anyone - seemed to make it worse actually.

I wasn’t overly attractive as a 14 year old I should point out, it’s not like I looked like an 18 year old model.

My point is unfortunately there are just very disgusting men around and I, like the PP suggests, think she needs to train herself to not react by hiding from the catcallers but ignore it. Or flick the finger. Or get her phone out even.

I would make it a hate crime. Arseholes.

I hear you, meikyo, I had this every single day when I walked too and from school - in school uniform - from the age of 11.

These men should be treated as paedophiles because that is what they are really are. No man should be harassing any woman but a girl in school uniform is clearly underage and would be off-limits to all but paedophiles.

Those 'men' are probably married and their wives have no idea what they're tethered to. Those 'men' probably bray loudly that "Paeodos should be strung up" and fail to see the irony that they themselves are guilty of molesting children.

I don't know what the answer is. Mobile phones weren't around when I was at school so I did the ducking-down-a-side-street thing too. It's sad and upsetting that this hasn't got any better.

We need some sort of national campaign, reminding men that calling to underage children is nothing short of paedophilia and there will be legal consequences when they're caught.

I'm sorry for your daughter. She must do whatever makes her feel safest.