Splitting Costs

[bumbling]

I am organising a family holiday for 18 people. The family units are one group of 6 and 4 groups of 3. The group of six is two parents with their xhild, their adult daughter and her two kids. ( in my mind this is two groups but they are insisting they are one group)

I booked a transfer from the airport to the resort and now we need to decide how best to split it.

The options are:

Per group 400/5
Per group with the group of 6 400/6 counting as 2 groups
Per person including children 400/18

Which way do you think is the most fair to everyone?

Tell them everything will be per person...
Do make sure you all do separate bills for meals... Make this clear from the start..
Are meals included in the room thing.?
Also if you go anywhere and hire taxi's I would find out if they are per journey or per person.
I do think if it was per car I would just offer the free seats.

On trips booked they will have to pay per person anyway.

Half for children makes sense for food, but each child will need a full seat on the transfer minibus- they won’t transport 2 children squashed into 1 seat with one belt. And surely babies need a full seat for a car seat?

They are being CFs. No one can reasonably, or rationally, argue with a pp price. Just remember "No" is a complete sentence.

@HoppingPavlova Are you one of the group of 6?!

It's all very well saying just ignore it and do what they ask, but this is exactly how CFs get away with it time and time again - relying on non-confrontational people feeling too awkward to challenge their brazen cheekiness.

And also, am I the only one who's perplexed by the suggestion that the (now) two nuclear families are just one, when the whole holiday is a FAMILY holiday - i.e. EVERYBODY is related (whether by blood or marriage) so they could ALL quite legitimately claim to be one connected group.

Regardless of whether the older couple are paying for their adult daughter and grandchildren, as well as their child (whom I assume is probably older anyway, if they have a sibling with her own kids) or the adult daughter is paying for her parents and sibling, in the context of EVERYBODY being family, once you have your own kids, you're a separate smaller group within the larger family group.

If the parents have kindly offered to pay for their adult daughter and grandkids, then they do actually need to pay for them! Otherwise, it's like me living at no 50, offering to lend no 52 my lawnmower, nicking no 48's lawnmower to lend without asking or telling them and then expecting everybody to say what a generous soul I am.

As PPs have said, DO NOT go out for any joint meals or trips unless you all pay upfront/separately for yourselves and your own kids only.