Concerned about friend and married man

[Extravagant]

She is married with children and so is her work colleague but he has a massive crush on her and I think she has feelings for him too (though nothing has happened). She swears she would not have an affair but, if he did leave his wife for her, I’m wondering if he would just do the same thing again (she thinks not as she has known him for many years and he doesn’t have form).

Should I just not interfere or should I try to warn her off?

None of your business.

Exactly what are you 'warning her off' from? she's already said she isn't looking for an affair.

You're just looking to get over involved in something that is absolutely none of your business.

Nothing has happened. What exactly are you proposing to say to your friend given that she says she doesn’t want an affair?

I just want to stop her from getting hurt because I think she has feelings too. Perhaps over worrying though.

If she was interested in an affair she probably wouldn’t tell you anyway and warnings wouldn’t make a difference. If she’s really not, then it’s a tad patronising to preach at her about how it’ll end.

You seem very concerned given that nothing’s happened.

Not really anything for you to worry about. And don't assume "if he leaves his wife for her, he'll do it again". It isn't necessarily so . My DH left his wife for me, and I left my husband for him.....we've been together for 15 years, married for 10 years, and neither of us has ever had the slightest thought of leaving each other for someone else . You can't make assumptions about what other people will do.

Thanks Stellabird. Yes, I just know she can get caught up in the moment but no doubt over worrying.