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Daughter having a melt down

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Fullofthought · 08/09/2018 21:43

My dd age 6 was having a melt down at bedtime ( suffers with anxiety and undergoing help for it) so much that she made her self throw up. If she's not sick again ( I know 100% that it was the melt down that made her sick) could I still send her to school. Last year I kept her off but school are cracking down on sickness now and expect a doctor's visit for every illness. Aibu to still send her in if she's not sick again.

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TrottingAround · 08/09/2018 21:45

Yanbu, because she wasn't sick through being contagiously ill.

I was sick once as a result of smelling something awful. I wouldn't take time off for it, and I do for contagious/nasty colds!

Queenofthestress · 08/09/2018 21:46

If she doesn't have a fever or dirreah then hell yes send her in, I send mine in unless he's requiring calpol/ibuprofen or has the shits

PurplePotatoes · 08/09/2018 21:47

I would definitely send her to school if you are 100% it was that.

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Fullofthought · 08/09/2018 21:47

I would normally keep her off the 48 hours but it's the beginning of term and with them cracking down I want to save sick days for when she really is poorly/contagious.

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CripsSandwiches · 08/09/2018 21:49

If you're sure it was the meltdown (like really sure not "erm it might have just been the meltdown)send her in. My eldest gets travel sick and always throws up if he spends too long on the swing. In that case I send him in. If I'm not sure I keep him back.

There was one time I was 60% sure he'd just eaten too much chocolate cake - he threw up once then was absolute fine. I kept him back anyway to be on the safe side. Half way through the next day we all came down with the worst D&V I've ever seen! I was very grateful we hadn't spread it to his class and also that I didn't have to attempt to drive to school and get him home while throwing up every 2 minutes myself!

GreenTulips · 08/09/2018 21:51

Girl in DD class is car sick - every week without fail on the PE or swimming bus

Never missed a day at school

Think you are taking this far to strictly. School won't care she's kit contagious.

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Fullofthought · 08/09/2018 21:52

If she's sick one more time I'll keep her off the 48 hours if not she's in as normal Monday.

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CrossFlannelCherry · 08/09/2018 21:53

Does she usually go to school on a Sunday?

HeadacheAgainGrrrrrr · 08/09/2018 21:53

YABU - tomorrow is Sunday

GreenTulips · 08/09/2018 21:54

Thinly he OP can count 48 hours from when she's been sick

ohnothanks · 08/09/2018 21:55

We had a similar situation to this except he was sick at school on his first day. Certain it was anxiety/ a masive rich mean at 9pm the night before. We took school's advixe and sent him in the next day. Sometimes kids are sick for reasons other than a contagious illness. This has come as a profound shock to me as my first child has an iron gut, as do I.

EwItsAHooman · 08/09/2018 21:57

Tomorrow is Sunday but 48hrs would be Monday evening.

If you know it was the meltdown the send her in. DS often vomits during meltdowns and I don't observe the 48hr rule for it because I know it's not contagious.

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Fullofthought · 08/09/2018 22:01

I can count when 48 hours is from when she was sick. As stated in last post if she's sick again I'll do 48 hour rule. If shes not sick school as normal Monday.

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redcaryellowcar · 08/09/2018 22:30

Do used to do similar related to anxiety. Dr advised to keep him off for 24 hours, which if no repeats would suggest it wasn't contagious/ a bug? In your situation if no more tomorrow. I would send in on Monday.

Soontobe60 · 08/09/2018 22:33

Have you kept her off before when she's been sick through having a tantrum? You say she suffers from anxiety but she's only 6. What is it that makes her anxious? And what was today's tantrum about?

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Fullofthought · 08/09/2018 22:39

I cannot go into the reasons for her anxiety police have been involved in it. She was having flash backs to what happend to her and caused her to have the melt down. Yes I've kept her off in the past as she has been unconsolable after it. This time she took her self in the shower to clean herself up whilst I dealt with the mess. She is still a little emotional but is no where near as bad as last time.

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garethsouthgatesmrs · 08/09/2018 22:42

The school expect parents to take their children to the GP for a sickness bug? That's a disgusting policy. I hope the doctors surgery complain to them about this. Its just what they need for their elderly and vulnerable patients, a load of puking kids in their waiting room so that the schools attendance figures look good for ofsted.

confusednorthner · 08/09/2018 22:45

My dad has anxiety issues and I think sick from that is quite different from sick from a bug and school have always agreed. I'd send her in if that's it and she's fine from now.

MaderiaCycle · 08/09/2018 22:49

She doesn't need to be off. The other kids can't catch anxiety sickness from her.....

Wanderlusting99 · 09/09/2018 14:53

Sickness is 24 hours at our school, it's the other end that's 48 hours. And I'd send her in, one of our children has a condition that means they get excess mucus in the tubes to their lungs so they are sick almost daily, they'd not get an education if we didn't send them in after sickness as I'm not sure they've ever managed 48 hours without sickness, but we can tell if it's ill sick because they're hot /floppy/pale etc or just long term issues sickness.

AnnieAnoniMoose · 09/09/2018 15:00

Poor little poppet. I hope time heals the anxiety & her memory of what happened.

Definitely send her in if she’s not sick again or isf he’s sick after getting upset again. You know what’s causing it and you know it’s not contagious.

milkjetmum · 09/09/2018 15:00

My dd also gets car sick and can vomit with a minor cough as her tonsils are huge and make her gag. So our policy is once is unfortunate, twice is a confidence but three times and we're on lockdown. And as pp said with proviso that obviously different if they are clearly unwell or have other symptoms like a temperature

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