To be pissed off

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That my partner of three years still has some of his passwords set as he's ex girlfriends name???

Yeah, that's bad.

My husband of 10 years still has his first gf’s birthday. I’m ok with it, he has a terrible memory.

Awkward!

It's really bothering me!!!

I wouldn't read too much into it, passwords are habit, if he's been with you 3 years he probably relates the word more to his password than the person these days. If we ever split my DH would either keep all the passwords which are of many things related to me, all of which have the date of our wedding intertwined in various different ways. Or he would be constantly locked out of everything, his memory is diabolical.

New accounts? Not unreasonable .
Years old accounts? Unreasonable slightly but understandable. While it's bad security habits to have same password for several accounts and to not change them regularly, a lot of people stick to what they know/remember either for ease of access or because they can't be arsed.

I wouldn't take it personally, it's probably that if he changes the password he may forget it? (Presumably it isn't just her name - possibly a sequence of capital letters / numbers as well)

It’s a bit weird. Are they still in contact?

It does seem like a trivial thing to be upset about, it's only a password

A bit annoyed yes but "pissed off", no that's over the top.

Aside from the fact that it's probably because he's used to it as a password, it actually makes reasonable sense since I don't suppose many people would guess he was using it.

The fact that you even know what his passwords are should give you some reassurance into the stability of your relationship. Unless of course he hasn't told you them himself, in which case you are terrible for seeking them out.

If it really matters that much to you I guess you could brand your name on his forehead so that there can be no confusion?

Hmm, one of my passwords contains a reference to a conversation with an ex (from over ten years and multiple LTRs ago). I should change it but I'm too lazy.

Should never have partners names as a passwords too easy to guess.

I have been married to my lovely husband for 7 years and been together nearly 13! He is my world! I can barely remember what my ex looked like but I still have the date of when we met as a password as I can't be bothered to change it and that's what it's always been. My husband thinks it's funny. It means NOTHING. Hope that helps x

This made me laugh. This would be the sort of thing I'd kind of be mock-upset about in a "AND ANOTHER THING!" sort of a way, and DH would know I was kidding. DH has got the same two passwords for everything. If it was an ex-GF's name (as it happens, he hasn't used that, but he might have done) and if he changed them now, he'd really genuinely piss me off constantly asking me if I knew what he'd changed the password to for xyz. Really, it's easier for him to keep the password as Doris or whatever the ex's name was.

Meh. I still have variations the name of a dodgy 90s metal band I was into as a teen for all my passwords, it’s been the same since the dawn of the internet. It means I can Remember my passwords and don’t get muddled up with having multiple ones.

Perhaps he should improve his security settings by changing them.
Then he can keep that information to himself and I suspect you'd then complain about that.

Meh lots of my passwords are based on something really angsty I made up when I was 14. (Think - something along the lines of a Linkin Park lyric). Wouldn't represent how I feel now but I'm not going to change it!

It's more unreasonable that he's recycling passwords across accounts and that you know them.

@MrsSteptoe introduce your husband to OnePass or Keepass or something, then he could have different passwords for everything while only having to remember one.

Ach he probably keeps them as he can’t be doing with the hassle of changing to new ones and having to remember them.
I can see where you’re coming from but honestly, it won’t be indicative of any strength of feeling for the exes so much a convenience and laziness.

Should never have partners names as a passwords too easy to guess.

Which makes the name of a long forgotten ex a good idea.

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest - I have passwords that reference people from my past bc they mean absolutely nothing to me but I cba changing things up

TheSmallAssassin Thanks, I might actually have a conversation with him about that. He had a scam email recently that quoted one of his passwords and attempted to blackmail him, and I think it shook him up a bit that, you know, it's not just media hysteria but actually people can hack you.