Hello
Thanks for taking the time to read this. To begin with, I am fully prepared to being told I am unreasonable and if that is the case I shall move on and try not to feel bad! I am also aware this probably makes me seem like a teenage girl again!
I have been close friends with 5 other women for about 10 years. Two years ago, one of them decided she didn’t like some of us as much as the others and tried to exclude a couple of us. The other friends realised this was happening and refused to let it happen which was great. Fast forwards a couple of years. The friend who didn’t like some of us has made it clear she still doesn’t like two of us. I have put up and shut up just to not make a fuss. Earlier this year I was encouraged to have a joint 40th day out with these friends. I am not the sort of person who enjoys ever being the centre of attention however I agreed to this but said I really didn’t feel it was fair that I had to invite this one person along to my 40th as she has always made it clear she doesn’t like me. In the end, I was told it would make everyone else feel awkward if she didn’t come so I backed out. I still went along to celebrate the other persons birthday but just took my birthday out of it.
I have just been invited to an evening round one of my fiends houses next week. She has told me that she knows how this one person has treated me but she would feel too awkward not inviting her as it would mean she would also be hated. I’m starting to wonder if I am being a bit stupid by carrying on like this. I can guarantee if this person had treated anyone else in this friendship group the way I have been treated they would refuse to go anywhere with her! As it is, they all say they understand how I feel and they don’t really like her themselves but basically they are not going to change anything.
They keep saying how close we all are and how I can’t let this one person affect our friendship but am I right in thinking that basically they don’t really give a shit about how I feel?! Or should I just carry on putting up with this woman in order
To keep my friends.